yes we try to sit down when we can to talk but we run into a few
speed bumps.
- both of us are tired. me from a very stress full work day (i'm an
emergency dispatcher) and her from taking care of our children.
- language barrier. we've tried teaching each other english/japanese
but it doesnt work, tempers flare in frustration.
- we talk for a few mins then fade into silence and though we would
like to talk more arent sure what to talk about.
- after we talk about her day and she asks about mine there are
things i honestly cant talk about due to work restrictions, others
arent good subjects and i'd rather not talk about them.
I've always shown an interest in her family and culture. i'm
facinated by japanese history both cultural and military/warrior. i'm
limited in my interaction capability with her friends and family with
the language barrier.
for holding her hand.... in frank honesty it her that needs to ask
this question as she could tell you that i try to hold her hand
perhaps too much. i'm not ashamed to hold her hand in private, public
or around her family though she's not always open to it.
i'm far from a perfect person, husband or father. i've tried to
improve but when there is little to no possitive response to make be
believe my attempts are in the right direction and/or accepted wears
on my resolve to maintain them and we slip back.
a frequent question from both sides is "why do i always have to ....."
i just want to find a way to make Lemonade out of the Lemons that
life has thrown our way.
--- In asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com, "malcom"
<wargalley20011@...> wrote:
>
> Have you sat down, and asked about her day? Asked her about her
> Family, friends, culture? Finding some time to listen to her helps.
> When was the last time you held her hand?
>
> malcom
>
>
> --- In asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com, "alfred"
> <celalor1977@> wrote:
> >
> > hey all,
> >
> > i'm new here and hopefully i can find some assistance here. i've
> been
> > married to a beautiful and smart japanese lady for almost 10
years
> now.
> > we've had some really rough spots and lost alot of the sparkle
and
> > pizaz of our first year or so together. we've been through alot
> (some
> > we had no choice over or were lead to beleive so)and been close
to
> > divorce more times that either of us ever wanted.
> >
> > my wife is a wonderful woman and i am hoping i can possibly find
> some
> > help here and/or some inspiration on how i can try to build our
> romance
> > and joy of being together back up.
> >
> > thanks
> >
>
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