[asianamericanromance] Re: Being Human

--- In asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com, "J H" <furvert@...> wrote:
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> --- In asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com, "Khwan" <khwan@> wrote:
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> > --- In asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com, Furvert <furvert@> wrote:
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> > > Supporting family has many levels of comfort and varies with where you live.
> > > I personally think $25,000 income per person in the family will support
> > > them quite well, anything more is luxuries. But that amount does need to
> > > adjust for location, what is fine in the Midwest is not enough on the
> > > coasts due to housing costs.
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> > I think that amount need to be adjusted VERY much. And I think you need to make clear and define what you think is luxuries and what others might think .
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> > In Los Angeles. That $25,000 might pay for a 2 bedroom apartment. But will not even start to pay for other costs-electricity. water. etc.
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> > When you add costs like food. Car payment. Insurance. Even more money is needed before you can can even start living.
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> > So what is luxuries? Going out the eat? A car? Going to movies? Going to concerts? Traveling? Cellphones?
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> > Moving from another country has many expenses. Long distance calls. Traveling back home to visit relatives. Etc. Are these luxuries not included in $25,000?
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> > And is the $25,000 before or after taxes?
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> > Also. Since this Group is about AsianAmerican relationship-and many here came here to get married on Fiance Visa you have to think that many people can not get job very fast when they first start living here.
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> > And I still not know where all of these cheap houses are. I do reasearch and it say that the CHEAPEST city in the USA (in Iowa) average price for a house is $80,000. That is the CHEAPEST in the country. The average prices for house in the USA is $320,000.
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> > So maybe it cheap in your area-but for most people it not same.
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> > KHWAN
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> As I said 25,000 per person in the family and in the Midwest. Iowa is one of the Midwest states.
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> So a family of 4 at $100,000 a year income would live decently in the Midwest. More is needed in other areas MOSTLY for housing costs as the other costs do not vary as much. So I suppose a better range needs to be calculated for a few sample cities. Home pricing just went through a major collapse due to high inflation and lending, so prices could have changed recently as well. That 3 bedroom home in the second largest city of Nebraska has gone from $30,000 through $100,000 in the last 20 years. The land it sits on has gone from $3,000 to $30,000 simply because there is less city land to build on. But the city expands at more than 5,000 people a year and more farm land gets turns into housing. Smaller towns are still a lot cheaper but that is changing as they turn into suburbs of the larger cities. But certain minimal standards for entertainment is needed as well, though so is safety. Would you allow your child to walk somewhere alone? Not in many cities, but there is far less problems with that in the Midwest. But that too is changing...
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> Ooops, I just checked and the company that sold the 3 bedroom home has raised prices from when I last looked. They are $148,000 now for the same home that sold for $30,000 20 years ago. Well it would have newer appliances but mostly the same design.
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> This is not a statement of my income. For example I lost a $500,000 contract at the last second last year because the boss's son in accounting messed up. That foul up meant it could not be done in time so they had to cancel. Oh well that cost them over 3 million as a result but I made nothing out of it even though I put in a huge amount of effort designing it. But they may decide to do it eventually in which case I make a lot. It just shows income can jump about crazily.
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> But money is something that anyone could get in huge amounts now days. The question becomes how much is really enough. If you have more than you can reasonably use, should you keep it? Or should you spend it to help others?
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> And when you speak of Billions there is no doubt it is more than is needed for any life style. So hording such assets is bad for many people. Sadly it is such gathering of wealth that is hurting this country. But I suppose I should get off my lazy butt and make a few billion to be able to show by example... And maybe having it would cause me to fail that test. But I help others no matter how little I have at the time, so maybe I would pass. Being a Nice Guy has problems, many just see you as someone to take advantage of. That has become the issue with big business, they have lost the Ethics and only see the $$$, who cares what damage is done to others as long as they make more $$$.
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> But this has wandered a bit off course and still it shows Sharon's 2 million may not be that much more than what is needed in much of this country. It appears I may need to raise my standards?
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I just thought I would toss in some references
http://www.trulia.com/home_prices/ gives average sale prices in areas and can zoom in quite a lot for specific areas

http://www.hartlandhomes.com/homes/floor_plans.htm Gives examples of decent priced new homes in my area. I would like to find the equivalent in California for comparison

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[asianamericanromance] Re: My criterion in hubby

Yes, one thing we have is GREAT communication!

John S.


In a message dated 6/12/2010 11:07:53 P.M. Pacific Daylight Time,
pinkiee.roses@gmail.com writes:

Hi John,

Nice to read your reply below, and from the bottom of my heart I really
wish that you both will live happilly ever after :)

Once you both understand each other needs then the next thing to develop
is good communication :) without good communication it is difficult. I do
believe someway or rather people do change :)

I can say this all base on my own experience especially if its a mixed
cultural relationship or marriage, need more efforts :)

Best wishes for you both
Cheers
Rose


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Re: [asianamericanromance] Re: My criterion in hubby



I think there is a distinction between Fat & Sloppy and BBW!
 
John S.
 
In a message dated 6/12/2010 11:03:41 P.M. Pacific Daylight Time, pinkiee.roses@gmail.com writes:


Hahahaha thanks J for your definition of fat sloppy women :)

But don't you think what you discribe means fat only ?
Then what is the different between fat sloppy women and fat women ?

Sorry if asking too much, but I perfer to ask straight instead be a blurr gal ;) and also appologize if I got it wrongly, most because of my english limitation.

Cheers
~Rose~

Happiness - To appreciate what we have and to be able to enjoy them
Sent with lots of best wishes and powered by Faith


From: "Just For Birds" <justforbirds@telus.net>
Sender: asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com
Date: Sat, 12 Jun 2010 20:14:33 -0700
To: <asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com>
ReplyTo: asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com
Subject: RE: [asianamericanromance] Re: My criterion in hubby

 

Rose & S:

Fat Sloppy Women.

Definition. Hmmmmmmmmmm……. Let me count the ways (ooops Kg)

These are women who, when they wear spandex or lycra; the material stretches sooooooooo much you can see skin through the stretched material.

There are many of these panoramic ladies waddling about the countryside and cities.

I am about to start the SPCS (Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Spandex).

At 1st we will try education. If that fails; well: we may have to re-institute whale hunts by calling the Japanese and Icelandic people.

[ Resonding to your original e-mai:l]

Hi S

May I know the criteria Fat Sloppy Women ?

~Sorry, oNe LiNeR~

Cheers
Rose

Happiness - To appreciate what we have and to be able to enjoy them
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From: "dgent9" <sidro9@yahoo.com>

Sender: asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com

Date: Sat, 12 Jun 2010 20:21:19 -0000

To: <asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com>

ReplyTo: asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com

Subject: [asianamericanromance] Re: My criterion in hubby

 

Wow I must say this is the most activity I have seen on the site since I became a member. I wish it was more of a peaceful nature and we could leave the name calling and other insults out. I think a woman should value herself high as she will bring a great deal to a relationship but I admit I have never seen it stated in such a way. I do not think the age of a woman has anything to do with her value and this also apply to men. It is OK to think highly of one self and state what one would like to have in their lives, the readers should ask can I meet what she is asking and if the aswer is no, move on and make no comment.
Kwan you are still cool with me and I like seeing the world through your post so keep it up.

On the other side, I DO NOT LIKE FAT SLOPPY WOMEN of any race and will not date them no matter how much they have to offer.

S

--- In asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com, "Sharon" <lin.sharon123@...> wrote:
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> Hi Rose,
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> That's smart of you too to advertise on here. :)
> I think you are a lovely simple gal from your posting that you have a picture of your sweet family with consideration in many aspects.
>
> Lastly hereby the follwoing message from me again is my favour for you which would make you sound even a lot more lovely.
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> [Start of my message]
> Hi all,
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> My name is Sharon,asian born 1974. Anyone who are qualified to the below mentioned conditions could reply to this msg.
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> Male, straight, never been married nor had kids
> Age: older than me n younger than 49
> Asset: around 2 millions usd or above
> Height: taller than 5'7 or 172cm
> Look: decent appearance
> Character: average or above
>
> Thanks,
> Sharon
> [End of my message]
>
>
> cheers,
> Sharon
>
>
> --- In asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com, "Rose" <pinkiee.roses@> wrote:
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> > Hi sharon :)
> >
> > Thank you for your comment :)
> >
> > I am thinking now, should I say my criterion in hubby too ? :)
> > Well what the heck .... I am a gal with a dream for my own future also but maybe a bit more simple than you(is it :p), could be because of the way I am raised up.
> >
> > He must be a loving person, and a responsable person. I rather have a bit of freedom of my own where I can work and earn for saving :)
> > He must treat me equally, coz from my friends experience, some men do treat the wife / partner like maid.
> > He must be a bit funny too of course ;)
> > He must be a stable person where got saving uhmmmm say at least $100k which is enough for minimum of 5 years comfortable living in my country with careful budgetting.
> > He must have a house, own house so there will be no worry where are we gonna stay next and hassle of moving from one house to another :)
> >
> > Opppsssss by having such criterions, should I be a pretty girl ? :)
> >
> > Let's have discussion in here .... Men please do tell what is your criterion od wife :)
> >
> > Sent on date 6/12/2010 time 15:15
> >
> >
> > Happiness - To appreciate what we have and to be able to enjoy them
> > Sent with lots of best wishes and powered by Faith
> >
> > -----Original Message-----
> > From: "Sharon" <lin.sharon123@>
> > Sender: asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com
> > Date: Sat, 12 Jun 2010 06:04:20
> > To: <asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com>
> > Reply-To: asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com
> > Subject: [asianamericanromance] Re: My criterion in hubby
> >
> > Hi Rose,
> >
> > That's a beautiful statment in your previous message.
> >
> > A common topic is easier to attract responding I guess since everyone has his/her criterion in gf/bf or wiffy/hubby. We are simply part of the natural world as a prime kind of creature. We are developing our civilization n society where family is the basic unite, hence mate play an important role.
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> > Your modest comment is a fresh to this topic and I believe you would have a lovely hubby.
> >
> > cheers,
> > Sharon
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> >
> > --- In asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com, "Rose" <pinkiee.roses@> wrote:
> > >
> > > Hi,
> > >
> > > Been watching this group lately and well -sorry- I said at least now this group alive. In all the yahoo groups I join, there will always be passive members and tend to hide behind the scene. But past few days, this group started to 'alive' even with cynical comments.
> > >
> > > I am just an ordinary person, am not an american, am not thai also - even tho I wish to be one coz I find most of thai ladies are really pretty- and I join this group in hope of finding friennds :)
> > >
> > > Sharon got every rights to say what she wants in a man whom she wants to be her husband. And who we are have a right to judge other people wants, other people dreams ? Each people has their own dream and needs, and its up to them how they want it. Its a free world.
> > >
> > > And just like all the girls in the world, maybe including me :p, wants to have better husband, better future. Especially once we enter marriage life, its not about man and woman only but also goot kids to think about. Isn't it better oif we can see all from the bright side instead of the dark side ?
> > >
> > > Its just my 2cents :)
> > > Hope this group will become the best group :)
> > >
> > > Cheers
> > > Rose
> > >
> > >
> > > Happiness - To appreciate what we have and to be able to enjoy them
> > > Sent with lots of best wishes and powered by Faith
> > >
> > > -----Original Message-----
> > > From: "Sharon" <lin.sharon123@>
> > > Sender: asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com
> > > Date: Thu, 10 Jun 2010 23:56:50
> > > To: <asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com>
> > > Reply-To: asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com
> > > Subject: [asianamericanromance] Re: My criterion in hubby
> > >
> > > Hi Mike,
> > >
> > > (1)You said you are married but you browsed on this website and even involved your son to course together with you on here.
> > >
> > > (2)You rephrase our words into a bad side.
> > >
> > > (3)I have never lived in English speaking countries, that's why I am not familiar with English.
> > >
> > > (4)I think the group offer a cool channcel for free expression n that's why our post is on here.
> > >
> > >
> > > Sharon
> > >
> > > --- In asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com, Mike Kosak <mwk_14059@> wrote:
> > > >
> > > > fuck off Steve you wuss
> > > > ?
> > > > For the record, this is my last post-, but let me give a history for the new joiners to this thread who seem not to have been paying attention to the start of it.
> > > > ?
> > > > 1) someone named Sharon sent an email posting herself available for a man with $2million USD
> > > > ?
> > > > 2) MANY (!!!) people? replied that she was offering herself for sale like a whore, others suggesting she was too old to be worth that kind of money, over the hill, christmas cake (?).? etc.etc..?
> > > > ?
> > > > 3) Sharon replied many times again, in language that seemed to indicate she was not very familiar with english language and/or culture
> > > > ?
> > > > 4) I THEN TRIED TO DEFEND?Sharon - suggesting that she be given the benefit of the doubt (this is after all a site to discuss asian-american romance and the difference in culture that may arise)?
> > > > ?
> > > > 5) Khwan replied that I was wrong and revealed her thoughts about american men being fat ugly and old, and looking for young sexy asian because they cannot find it at home,?and also that men want a maid servant and baby factory.? Khwan also said that since men 'make a list' of things, it was OK for Sharon to make demands too.
> > > > ?
> > > > 6) I replied that her comment was pretty cynical (for the moderator of a group) and she revealed a little more of her thoughts about amercian men then she might have wanted to (being the moderator of the group here)
> > > > ?
> > > > 7) Khwan, missing the boat ENTIRELY, replied in a rude and demeaning manner and even brought my children into the discussion
> > > > ?
> > > > 8) I caller her a bitch for her bitchiness (and dont forget- we now also know what the MODERATOR of the group thinks about fat, old, ugly american men)
> > > > ?
> > > > 9) other people chimed in with their name calling
> > > > ?
> > > > This group is NOT well led, and the members are prone to knee-jerk name calling and insulting behavior.
> > > > ?
> > > > So... please some one either remove my name from this group or tell me how I do it.
> > > > ?
> > > > ?
> > > >
> > > >
> > > > --- On Thu, 6/10/10, Steve Goldade <stevegoldade@> wrote:
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> > > >
> > > > From: Steve Goldade <stevegoldade@>
> > > > Subject: Re: [asianamericanromance] Re: My criterion in hubby
> > > > To: asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com
> > > > Date: Thursday, June 10, 2010, 11:39 AM
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> > > >
> > > > ?
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> > > > Khwan
> > > > ?
> > > > From another man, I truely support your thoughts. This dud appears to be a real jerk.
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> > > >
> > > > From: Khwan <khwan@khwan. com>
> > > > To: asianamericanromanc e@yahoogroups. com
> > > > Sent: Wed, June 9, 2010 8:15:10 PM
> > > > Subject: [asianamericanroman ce] Re: My criterion in hubby
> > > >
> > > > ?
> > > >
> > > > What a sad little man you must really be.
> > > >
> > > > As soon as a woman says something you do not agree with you call them whores and bitches.
> > > >
> > > > Is this how your mother raised you to treat women?
> > > >
> > > > No need to post a reply. This Group has had enough disrespect and name calling from you.
> > > >
> > > > Consider yourself not welcome to post here any more in the future until you learn to respect women.
> > > >
> > > > KHWAN
> > > >
> > > > --- In asianamericanromanc e@yahoogroups. com, Mike Kosak <mwk_14059@ .> wrote:
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> > > > > wow- what a bitch you are
> > > > >
> > > > >
> > > > > --- On Wed, 6/9/10, Khwan <khwan@> wrote:
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> > > > >
> > > > > From: Khwan <khwan@>
> > > > > Subject: [asianamericanroman ce] Re: My criterion in hubby
> > > > > To: asianamericanromanc e@yahoogroups. com
> > > > > Date: Wednesday, June 9, 2010, 6:43 PM
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> > > > >
> > > > > ??
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> > > > >
> > > > > Mike:
> > > > >
> > > > > I fear that it is you who revealed more about yourself than you think.
> > > > >
> > > > > I NEVER called ALL men who go to Asia "fat, ugly, poor, slobs". Maybe you see yourself as that and see my words as reflection of poor self-image? I said that many men who not considered attractive or older in USA go to Asia to find younger girlfriends and wives. The reason is simple-they not want older and less attractive women in the USA. This is the reason why so many people here prejudice over lady older than 30 years old-and this criticism coming from men 45-60 years old.
> > > > >
> > > > > As for revealing yourself more-I think any man who calls a woman he never met a "whore" has no respect for women in general. And the type of man who has this little respect is exactly the kind of man that sadly often looks to women of other countries for a relationship. Maybe you think it OK to call women whores because you not agree with them-I do not. It is rude and shows lack of education and manners and respect.
> > > > >
> > > > > Again. I not say this is for ALL men. But I think most women would have little to do with a man who disrepects women like you have.
> > > > >
> > > > > KHWAN
> > > > >
> > > > > --- In asianamericanromanc e@yahoogroups. com, Mike Kosak <mwk_14059@> wrote:
> > > > > >
> > > > > > your opion that all the men who went to asia are fat ugly poor slobs is the cynical part
> > > > > > ??šÃ‚Â?
> > > > > > the idiots who posted that she was over 30 were stupid too.
> > > > > > ??šÃ‚Â?
> > > > > > They revealed themselves for the idiots they are, but she started out by coming on as a gold digging whore
> > > > > > ??šÃ‚Â?
> > > > > >
> > > > > >
> > > > > > --- On Wed, 6/9/10, Khwan <khwan@> wrote:
> > > > > >
> > > > > >
> > > > > > From: Khwan <khwan@>
> > > > > > Subject: [asianamericanroman ce] Re: My criterion in hubby
> > > > > > To: asianamericanromanc e@yahoogroups. com
> > > > > > Date: Wednesday, June 9, 2010, 5:44 PM
> > > > > >
> > > > > >
> > > > > > ??šÃ‚Â?
> > > > > >
> > > > > >
> > > > > >
> > > > > > What part I say is cynical? It is true. MANY older men in the West (USA) go to Asia to find younger girls.
> > > > > >
> > > > > > Look at the posts here for the last few days.
> > > > > >
> > > > > > EVERY man who posted against Shannon was over 45. And yet they were critical of her because she was over 30. Spoiled milk someone called her.
> > > > > >
> > > > > > Is that not double standard?
> > > > > >
> > > > > > I not say this 100% of the men who are in relationships with Asian woman. But if you not think it common-I think your eyes are closed.
> > > > > >
> > > > > > KHWAN
> > > > > >
> > > > > > --- In asianamericanromanc e@yahoogroups. com, Mike Kosak <mwk_14059@> wrote:
> > > > > > >
> > > > > > > wow- i think you might have revealed a little more about your cynical attitude toward american man than you might have intended
> > > > > > > ??�šÃ‚Â�
> > > > > > >
> > > > > > >
> > > > > > > --- On Wed, 6/9/10, Khwan <khwan@> wrote:
> > > > > > >
> > > > > > >
> > > > > > > From: Khwan <khwan@>
> > > > > > > Subject: [asianamericanroman ce] Re: My criterion in hubby
> > > > > > > To: asianamericanromanc e@yahoogroups. com
> > > > > > > Date: Wednesday, June 9, 2010, 4:15 PM
> > > > > > >
> > > > > > >
> > > > > > > ??�šÃ‚Â�
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> > > > > > > --- In asianamericanromanc e@yahoogroups. com, Mike Kosak <mwk_14059@> wrote:
> > > > > > > >
> > > > > > > > SHE STARTED IT!???'?¢â?šÂ¬Ã…¡ÃÆ'â?¬Å¡Ãƒâ€šÃ‚ ÃÆ'?'?¢â?šÂ¬Ã…¡ÃÆ'â?¬Å¡Ãƒâ€šÃ‚ ÃÆ'?'?¢â?šÂ¬Ã…¡ÃÆ'â?¬Å¡Ãƒâ€šÃ‚Â?
> > > > > > > >
> > > > > > > > Ok now that we have received a few more responses from her it is starting to seem more like a cultural difference
> > > > > > > >
> > > > > > > > In this country expressing how much assets you demand of your furutre husband is not going to go over very big.???'?¢â?šÂ¬Ã…¡ÃÆ'â?¬Å¡Ãƒâ€šÃ‚Â?It makes you sound like you have a price tag for your 'services' and we know what that is called (prostitution)
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> > > > > > >
> > > > > > > I understand this point of view.
> > > > > > >
> > > > > > > At same time-I understand her point of view. Men so many times look to Asia for girlfriends and wives because they not can find same in their country.
> > > > > > >
> > > > > > > They have big long list of what they want:
> > > > > > >
> > > > > > > Young. Pretty. Work hard like maid to take care of house.
> > > > > > >
> > > > > > > Give husband children or take care of children husband have.
> > > > > > >
> > > > > > > And these lists come from older men who are overweight and not attractive or not have good jobs. These men not can find sexy young girls in USA that want to date them. So they think that they can find that in Asia.
> > > > > > >
> > > > > > > So if men have list of what they want-what is wrong with women have same list?
> > > > > > >
> > > > > > > > And I wonder if you understand the value of $2million USD- it is less than 1% of the population that has that kind of money (that would be considered very very rich)
> > > > > > > >
> > > > > > >
> > > > > > > That is still 3,000,000 people. So it not impossible to find.
> > > > > > >
> > > > > > > And again. I go back to what I say before. Why is this bad when men have long list of what they want in Asia girl-a list that they could never find in the USA?
> > > > > > >
> > > > > > > ??�šÃ‚Â�
> > > > > > >
> > > > > > > > One potential girl friend I met told me her family expected me to pay them $1million USD for marriage to her.???'?¢â?šÂ¬Ã…¡ÃÆ'â?¬Å¡Ãƒâ€šÃ‚Â?I had to explain to them that it was the same as 40million tb - when they really only meant $5,000 usd (but hiked it up higher, because they think all americans are rich)
> > > > > > > >
> > > > > > >
> > > > > > > Are not all American's rich?
> > > > > > >
> > > > > > > :-)
> > > > > > >
> > > > > > > Or I should say most much more rich than Thai families.
> > > > > > >
> > > > > > > > But people in USA RARELY talk in terms of millions of USD. That is still one hell of a lot of money
> > > > > > > >
> > > > > > > > For example- a nice house can be purchased for $100,000.castle (like the one I own) can be purchased for $450,000.
> > > > > > > >
> > > > > > >
> > > > > > > In Los Angeles it almost impossible to find little house in not great neighborhood for less than $450,000.
> > > > > > >
> > > > > > > I think for $100,000 you can lease a nice parking space.
> > > > > > >
> > > > > > > > Some areas of the country had homes approcahcing 700K to $1million but those over-inflated price days are long gone- wiped out in the real estate crash last year.
> > > > > > >
> > > > > > > Again. Not in California.
> > > > > > >
> > > > > > > KHWAN
> > > > > > >
> > > > > >
> > > > >
> > > >
> > >
> >
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Re: [asianamericanromance] Re: My criterion in hubby



Hahahaha thanks J for your definition of fat sloppy women :)

But don't you think what you discribe means fat only ?
Then what is the different between fat sloppy women and fat women ?

Sorry if asking too much, but I perfer to ask straight instead be a blurr gal ;) and also appologize if I got it wrongly, most because of my english limitation.

Cheers
~Rose~

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From: "Just For Birds" <justforbirds@telus.net>
Sender: asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com
Date: Sat, 12 Jun 2010 20:14:33 -0700
To: <asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com>
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Subject: RE: [asianamericanromance] Re: My criterion in hubby

 

Rose & S:

Fat Sloppy Women.

Definition. Hmmmmmmmmmm……. Let me count the ways (ooops Kg)

These are women who, when they wear spandex or lycra; the material stretches sooooooooo much you can see skin through the stretched material.

There are many of these panoramic ladies waddling about the countryside and cities.

I am about to start the SPCS (Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Spandex).

At 1st we will try education. If that fails; well: we may have to re-institute whale hunts by calling the Japanese and Icelandic people.

[ Resonding to your original e-mai:l]

Hi S

May I know the criteria Fat Sloppy Women ?

~Sorry, oNe LiNeR~

Cheers
Rose

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From: "dgent9" <sidro9@yahoo.com>

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Date: Sat, 12 Jun 2010 20:21:19 -0000

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Subject: [asianamericanromance] Re: My criterion in hubby

 

 

Wow I must say this is the most activity I have seen on the site since I became a member. I wish it was more of a peaceful nature and we could leave the name calling and other insults out. I think a woman should value herself high as she will bring a great deal to a relationship but I admit I have never seen it stated in such a way. I do not think the age of a woman has anything to do with her value and this also apply to men. It is OK to think highly of one self and state what one would like to have in their lives, the readers should ask can I meet what she is asking and if the aswer is no, move on and make no comment.
Kwan you are still cool with me and I like seeing the world through your post so keep it up.

On the other side, I DO NOT LIKE FAT SLOPPY WOMEN of any race and will not date them no matter how much they have to offer.

S

--- In asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com, "Sharon" <lin.sharon123@...> wrote:
>
> Hi Rose,
>
> That's smart of you too to advertise on here. :)
> I think you are a lovely simple gal from your posting that you have a picture of your sweet family with consideration in many aspects.
>
> Lastly hereby the follwoing message from me again is my favour for you which would make you sound even a lot more lovely.
>
> [Start of my message]
> Hi all,
>
> My name is Sharon,asian born 1974. Anyone who are qualified to the below mentioned conditions could reply to this msg.
>
> Male, straight, never been married nor had kids
> Age: older than me n younger than 49
> Asset: around 2 millions usd or above
> Height: taller than 5'7 or 172cm
> Look: decent appearance
> Character: average or above
>
> Thanks,
> Sharon
> [End of my message]
>
>
> cheers,
> Sharon
>
>
> --- In asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com, "Rose" <pinkiee.roses@> wrote:
> >
> > Hi sharon :)
> >
> > Thank you for your comment :)
> >
> > I am thinking now, should I say my criterion in hubby too ? :)
> > Well what the heck .... I am a gal with a dream for my own future also but maybe a bit more simple than you(is it :p), could be because of the way I am raised up.
> >
> > He must be a loving person, and a responsable person. I rather have a bit of freedom of my own where I can work and earn for saving :)
> > He must treat me equally, coz from my friends experience, some men do treat the wife / partner like maid.
> > He must be a bit funny too of course ;)
> > He must be a stable person where got saving uhmmmm say at least $100k which is enough for minimum of 5 years comfortable living in my country with careful budgetting.
> > He must have a house, own house so there will be no worry where are we gonna stay next and hassle of moving from one house to another :)
> >
> > Opppsssss by having such criterions, should I be a pretty girl ? :)
> >
> > Let's have discussion in here .... Men please do tell what is your criterion od wife :)
> >
> > Sent on date 6/12/2010 time 15:15
> >
> >
> > Happiness - To appreciate what we have and to be able to enjoy them
> > Sent with lots of best wishes and powered by Faith
> >
> > -----Original Message-----
> > From: "Sharon" <lin.sharon123@>
> > Sender: asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com
> > Date: Sat, 12 Jun 2010 06:04:20
> > To: <asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com>
> > Reply-To: asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com
> > Subject: [asianamericanromance] Re: My criterion in hubby
> >
> > Hi Rose,
> >
> > That's a beautiful statment in your previous message.
> >
> > A common topic is easier to attract responding I guess since everyone has his/her criterion in gf/bf or wiffy/hubby. We are simply part of the natural world as a prime kind of creature. We are developing our civilization n society where family is the basic unite, hence mate play an important role.
> >
> > Your modest comment is a fresh to this topic and I believe you would have a lovely hubby.
> >
> > cheers,
> > Sharon
> >
> >
> >
> >
> >
> >
> >
> > --- In asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com, "Rose" <pinkiee.roses@> wrote:
> > >
> > > Hi,
> > >
> > > Been watching this group lately and well -sorry- I said at least now this group alive. In all the yahoo groups I join, there will always be passive members and tend to hide behind the scene. But past few days, this group started to 'alive' even with cynical comments.
> > >
> > > I am just an ordinary person, am not an american, am not thai also - even tho I wish to be one coz I find most of thai ladies are really pretty- and I join this group in hope of finding friennds :)
> > >
> > > Sharon got every rights to say what she wants in a man whom she wants to be her husband. And who we are have a right to judge other people wants, other people dreams ? Each people has their own dream and needs, and its up to them how they want it. Its a free world.
> > >
> > > And just like all the girls in the world, maybe including me :p, wants to have better husband, better future. Especially once we enter marriage life, its not about man and woman only but also goot kids to think about. Isn't it better oif we can see all from the bright side instead of the dark side ?
> > >
> > > Its just my 2cents :)
> > > Hope this group will become the best group :)
> > >
> > > Cheers
> > > Rose
> > >
> > >
> > > Happiness - To appreciate what we have and to be able to enjoy them
> > > Sent with lots of best wishes and powered by Faith
> > >
> > > -----Original Message-----
> > > From: "Sharon" <lin.sharon123@>
> > > Sender: asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com
> > > Date: Thu, 10 Jun 2010 23:56:50
> > > To: <asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com>
> > > Reply-To: asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com
> > > Subject: [asianamericanromance] Re: My criterion in hubby
> > >
> > > Hi Mike,
> > >
> > > (1)You said you are married but you browsed on this website and even involved your son to course together with you on here.
> > >
> > > (2)You rephrase our words into a bad side.
> > >
> > > (3)I have never lived in English speaking countries, that's why I am not familiar with English.
> > >
> > > (4)I think the group offer a cool channcel for free expression n that's why our post is on here.
> > >
> > >
> > > Sharon
> > >
> > > --- In asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com, Mike Kosak <mwk_14059@> wrote:
> > > >
> > > > fuck off Steve you wuss
> > > > ?
> > > > For the record, this is my last post-, but let me give a history for the new joiners to this thread who seem not to have been paying attention to the start of it.
> > > > ?
> > > > 1) someone named Sharon sent an email posting herself available for a man with $2million USD
> > > > ?
> > > > 2) MANY (!!!) people? replied that she was offering herself for sale like a whore, others suggesting she was too old to be worth that kind of money, over the hill, christmas cake (?).? etc.etc..?
> > > > ?
> > > > 3) Sharon replied many times again, in language that seemed to indicate she was not very familiar with english language and/or culture
> > > > ?
> > > > 4) I THEN TRIED TO DEFEND?Sharon - suggesting that she be given the benefit of the doubt (this is after all a site to discuss asian-american romance and the difference in culture that may arise)?
> > > > ?
> > > > 5) Khwan replied that I was wrong and revealed her thoughts about american men being fat ugly and old, and looking for young sexy asian because they cannot find it at home,?and also that men want a maid servant and baby factory.? Khwan also said that since men 'make a list' of things, it was OK for Sharon to make demands too.
> > > > ?
> > > > 6) I replied that her comment was pretty cynical (for the moderator of a group) and she revealed a little more of her thoughts about amercian men then she might have wanted to (being the moderator of the group here)
> > > > ?
> > > > 7) Khwan, missing the boat ENTIRELY, replied in a rude and demeaning manner and even brought my children into the discussion
> > > > ?
> > > > 8) I caller her a bitch for her bitchiness (and dont forget- we now also know what the MODERATOR of the group thinks about fat, old, ugly american men)
> > > > ?
> > > > 9) other people chimed in with their name calling
> > > > ?
> > > > This group is NOT well led, and the members are prone to knee-jerk name calling and insulting behavior.
> > > > ?
> > > > So... please some one either remove my name from this group or tell me how I do it.
> > > > ?
> > > > ?
> > > >
> > > >
> > > > --- On Thu, 6/10/10, Steve Goldade <stevegoldade@> wrote:
> > > >
> > > >
> > > > From: Steve Goldade <stevegoldade@>
> > > > Subject: Re: [asianamericanromance] Re: My criterion in hubby
> > > > To: asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com
> > > > Date: Thursday, June 10, 2010, 11:39 AM
> > > >
> > > >
> > > > ?
> > > >
> > > >
> > > >
> > > >
> > > >
> > > > Khwan
> > > > ?
> > > > From another man, I truely support your thoughts. This dud appears to be a real jerk.
> > > >
> > > >
> > > >
> > > >
> > > >
> > > > From: Khwan <khwan@khwan. com>
> > > > To: asianamericanromanc e@yahoogroups. com
> > > > Sent: Wed, June 9, 2010 8:15:10 PM
> > > > Subject: [asianamericanroman ce] Re: My criterion in hubby
> > > >
> > > > ?
> > > >
> > > > What a sad little man you must really be.
> > > >
> > > > As soon as a woman says something you do not agree with you call them whores and bitches.
> > > >
> > > > Is this how your mother raised you to treat women?
> > > >
> > > > No need to post a reply. This Group has had enough disrespect and name calling from you.
> > > >
> > > > Consider yourself not welcome to post here any more in the future until you learn to respect women.
> > > >
> > > > KHWAN
> > > >
> > > > --- In asianamericanromanc e@yahoogroups. com, Mike Kosak <mwk_14059@ .> wrote:
> > > > >
> > > > > wow- what a bitch you are
> > > > >
> > > > >
> > > > > --- On Wed, 6/9/10, Khwan <khwan@> wrote:
> > > > >
> > > > >
> > > > > From: Khwan <khwan@>
> > > > > Subject: [asianamericanroman ce] Re: My criterion in hubby
> > > > > To: asianamericanromanc e@yahoogroups. com
> > > > > Date: Wednesday, June 9, 2010, 6:43 PM
> > > > >
> > > > >
> > > > > ??
> > > > >
> > > > >
> > > > >
> > > > > Mike:
> > > > >
> > > > > I fear that it is you who revealed more about yourself than you think.
> > > > >
> > > > > I NEVER called ALL men who go to Asia "fat, ugly, poor, slobs". Maybe you see yourself as that and see my words as reflection of poor self-image? I said that many men who not considered attractive or older in USA go to Asia to find younger girlfriends and wives. The reason is simple-they not want older and less attractive women in the USA. This is the reason why so many people here prejudice over lady older than 30 years old-and this criticism coming from men 45-60 years old.
> > > > >
> > > > > As for revealing yourself more-I think any man who calls a woman he never met a "whore" has no respect for women in general. And the type of man who has this little respect is exactly the kind of man that sadly often looks to women of other countries for a relationship. Maybe you think it OK to call women whores because you not agree with them-I do not. It is rude and shows lack of education and manners and respect.
> > > > >
> > > > > Again. I not say this is for ALL men. But I think most women would have little to do with a man who disrepects women like you have.
> > > > >
> > > > > KHWAN
> > > > >
> > > > > --- In asianamericanromanc e@yahoogroups. com, Mike Kosak <mwk_14059@> wrote:
> > > > > >
> > > > > > your opion that all the men who went to asia are fat ugly poor slobs is the cynical part
> > > > > > ??šÃ‚Â?
> > > > > > the idiots who posted that she was over 30 were stupid too.
> > > > > > ??šÃ‚Â?
> > > > > > They revealed themselves for the idiots they are, but she started out by coming on as a gold digging whore
> > > > > > ??šÃ‚Â?
> > > > > >
> > > > > >
> > > > > > --- On Wed, 6/9/10, Khwan <khwan@> wrote:
> > > > > >
> > > > > >
> > > > > > From: Khwan <khwan@>
> > > > > > Subject: [asianamericanroman ce] Re: My criterion in hubby
> > > > > > To: asianamericanromanc e@yahoogroups. com
> > > > > > Date: Wednesday, June 9, 2010, 5:44 PM
> > > > > >
> > > > > >
> > > > > > ??šÃ‚Â?
> > > > > >
> > > > > >
> > > > > >
> > > > > > What part I say is cynical? It is true. MANY older men in the West (USA) go to Asia to find younger girls.
> > > > > >
> > > > > > Look at the posts here for the last few days.
> > > > > >
> > > > > > EVERY man who posted against Shannon was over 45. And yet they were critical of her because she was over 30. Spoiled milk someone called her.
> > > > > >
> > > > > > Is that not double standard?
> > > > > >
> > > > > > I not say this 100% of the men who are in relationships with Asian woman. But if you not think it common-I think your eyes are closed.
> > > > > >
> > > > > > KHWAN
> > > > > >
> > > > > > --- In asianamericanromanc e@yahoogroups. com, Mike Kosak <mwk_14059@> wrote:
> > > > > > >
> > > > > > > wow- i think you might have revealed a little more about your cynical attitude toward american man than you might have intended
> > > > > > > ??�šÃ‚Â�
> > > > > > >
> > > > > > >
> > > > > > > --- On Wed, 6/9/10, Khwan <khwan@> wrote:
> > > > > > >
> > > > > > >
> > > > > > > From: Khwan <khwan@>
> > > > > > > Subject: [asianamericanroman ce] Re: My criterion in hubby
> > > > > > > To: asianamericanromanc e@yahoogroups. com
> > > > > > > Date: Wednesday, June 9, 2010, 4:15 PM
> > > > > > >
> > > > > > >
> > > > > > > ??�šÃ‚Â�
> > > > > > >
> > > > > > >
> > > > > > >
> > > > > > >
> > > > > > >
> > > > > > > --- In asianamericanromanc e@yahoogroups. com, Mike Kosak <mwk_14059@> wrote:
> > > > > > > >
> > > > > > > > SHE STARTED IT!???'?¢â?šÂ¬Ã…¡ÃÆ'â?¬Å¡Ãƒâ€šÃ‚ ÃÆ'?'?¢â?šÂ¬Ã…¡ÃÆ'â?¬Å¡Ãƒâ€šÃ‚ ÃÆ'?'?¢â?šÂ¬Ã…¡ÃÆ'â?¬Å¡Ãƒâ€šÃ‚Â?
> > > > > > > >
> > > > > > > > Ok now that we have received a few more responses from her it is starting to seem more like a cultural difference
> > > > > > > >
> > > > > > > > In this country expressing how much assets you demand of your furutre husband is not going to go over very big.???'?¢â?šÂ¬Ã…¡ÃÆ'â?¬Å¡Ãƒâ€šÃ‚Â?It makes you sound like you have a price tag for your 'services' and we know what that is called (prostitution)
> > > > > > > >
> > > > > > >
> > > > > > > I understand this point of view.
> > > > > > >
> > > > > > > At same time-I understand her point of view. Men so many times look to Asia for girlfriends and wives because they not can find same in their country.
> > > > > > >
> > > > > > > They have big long list of what they want:
> > > > > > >
> > > > > > > Young. Pretty. Work hard like maid to take care of house.
> > > > > > >
> > > > > > > Give husband children or take care of children husband have.
> > > > > > >
> > > > > > > And these lists come from older men who are overweight and not attractive or not have good jobs. These men not can find sexy young girls in USA that want to date them. So they think that they can find that in Asia.
> > > > > > >
> > > > > > > So if men have list of what they want-what is wrong with women have same list?
> > > > > > >
> > > > > > > > And I wonder if you understand the value of $2million USD- it is less than 1% of the population that has that kind of money (that would be considered very very rich)
> > > > > > > >
> > > > > > >
> > > > > > > That is still 3,000,000 people. So it not impossible to find.
> > > > > > >
> > > > > > > And again. I go back to what I say before. Why is this bad when men have long list of what they want in Asia girl-a list that they could never find in the USA?
> > > > > > >
> > > > > > > ??�šÃ‚Â�
> > > > > > >
> > > > > > > > One potential girl friend I met told me her family expected me to pay them $1million USD for marriage to her.???'?¢â?šÂ¬Ã…¡ÃÆ'â?¬Å¡Ãƒâ€šÃ‚Â?I had to explain to them that it was the same as 40million tb - when they really only meant $5,000 usd (but hiked it up higher, because they think all americans are rich)
> > > > > > > >
> > > > > > >
> > > > > > > Are not all American's rich?
> > > > > > >
> > > > > > > :-)
> > > > > > >
> > > > > > > Or I should say most much more rich than Thai families.
> > > > > > >
> > > > > > > > But people in USA RARELY talk in terms of millions of USD. That is still one hell of a lot of money
> > > > > > > >
> > > > > > > > For example- a nice house can be purchased for $100,000.castle (like the one I own) can be purchased for $450,000.
> > > > > > > >
> > > > > > >
> > > > > > > In Los Angeles it almost impossible to find little house in not great neighborhood for less than $450,000.
> > > > > > >
> > > > > > > I think for $100,000 you can lease a nice parking space.
> > > > > > >
> > > > > > > > Some areas of the country had homes approcahcing 700K to $1million but those over-inflated price days are long gone- wiped out in the real estate crash last year.
> > > > > > >
> > > > > > > Again. Not in California.
> > > > > > >
> > > > > > > KHWAN
> > > > > > >
> > > > > >
> > > > >
> > > >
> > >
> >
>



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Re: [asianamericanromance] Re: When looking



Hi Arnold,

When you joined the club ? I remember few days ago Khwan posted the description and the purpose of this group :)

As for me, I come from Indonesia, and not many people from my country can speak fluent english, and am one of them :), and I joined this group maybe from 2 or 3 months ago. This group was so quiet till Sharon came with her 'advertisement' and out of sudden this group alive :)

I want to spread my wing of friendship to all over the world. And I believe this group is for all people to share their experience of life, espeically those who are having mixed cultural relationship such as asian and american. It is always nice to learn from other people experience other than our own experience :)

Cheers
Rose

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From: Arnaldo Beni <hab77@hotmail.com>
Sender: asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com
Date: Sat, 12 Jun 2010 21:43:09 -0400
To: asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com<asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com>
ReplyTo: asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com
Subject: RE: [asianamericanromance] Re: When looking

 

well i am getting these mesages and i dont these people i would like to get to know them that is all ,Maybe you can  tell me what this site is all about?
 


To: asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com
From: pinkiee.roses@gmail.com
Date: Sun, 13 Jun 2010 00:45:37 +0000
Subject: Re: [asianamericanromance] Re: When looking

 
Hi Arnold,

I know that your comment is for sharon, but it did make me curious.

Which part of sharon's comment made you rethink your original opinion ?



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-----Original Message-----
From: Arnaldo Beni <hab77@hotmail.com>
Sender: asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com
Date: Sat, 12 Jun 2010 17:26:48
To: asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com<asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com>
Reply-To: asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com
Subject: RE: [asianamericanromance] Re: When looking

hi sharon your comments have made me rethink my original opinions.



To: asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com
From: lin.sharon123@yahoo.com
Date: Sat, 12 Jun 2010 18:41:06 +0000
Subject: [asianamericanromance] Re: When looking





Hi Jerry,

So far I harvest the most from reading your previous reply n thank you for your kind suggestion.Jerry, your whole family member all look pretty cool n thank you for sharing album n all the comments, decent n intelligent.

Actually I have heard enough comment similiar like yours... however, yours' sound so sincere n persuasive itself. That makes it different n impact my previous thinking towards marriage into another deeper layer of thinking.

Sorry that my english wasn't good enough to express myself, your metaphor is suitable for my comprehension in brief.

Actually,2M for me is just a figure which means financial security for family if I wanna get married. I would appreciate anyone who could ignore the number to challenge me for anything over our topics.

Your comments are reasonable n feasible. That moves me to take that coz I didn't expect to have any good response at the very beginning actually.

My measurement remain the same as I firstly mentioned.

My attribute... let me try to list for sell.

Brief self-introduction:
Name:Sharon Lin
Nationality: Taiwan
Height n Weight: 5'2 n 125lbs
Look: shiny black hair
Education: Bachelour degree in Applied Foreign Languages
of National Taiwan University of Sceince n Technology.
Profession: Between jobs
Ideal role: A house wife with working career in TW govermt.

(1) I am a good cook because my second sister is a good cook, I learnt little from her.

(2) I like kids because I love my nephew and niece.

(3) I am good at sports because my blood type is O which ancestor were said to hunt in pasture land with great acitivity. My favorite sports are table tennis, tai-chi, dance and simple ball sports like badminton, billiards etc.

(4) I am competent of taking care of the both families and supporting.

(5) My parents never asked nor took for free a cent from my sisterinlaw n brotherinlaw.

The rest (6) ... perhaps to (100) is to be continued...

What I asked is already a good enough person, so no room for negotiation since it's subjective issue but could be adjusted prior to potentially great applicants is fine by me. So I will welcome candidates of my future hubby get on line.

Anyone who is convinced n interested could still reply to my wanted topic "My criterion in hubby"

Jerry, I know the above is still not good enough from your suggestion. But that's what's about me so far. Thank you for sharing your comments.

cheers,
Sharon

--- In asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com, "Just For Birds" <justforbirds@...> wrote:
>
> Sharon:
>
>
>
> The point of contention came about (that many objected to) was the
> expectation for $2M us.
>
> When trying to sell something; really anything; even ourselves there are a
> few basic tools to use.
>
> First and foremost; sell yourself: do a good job. List your attributes (no;
> not your measurements{although some do!})
>
> For instance maybe you're a good cook or like kids or good at sports.
>
> Then; after the "buyer" has evinced some interest: then drop the sale price
> in private.
>
> If a really great person is made; the sale price might even be
> re-negotiable or
>
> adjusted prior to scaring off potentially great applicants.
>
>
>
> I, too, had to show my wife's family I was capable and had the resources to
> support her in an acceptable manner.
>
> But; that came well after the "sale job" on both my & her part had been
> completed.
>
> After convincing ourselves we wanted to be together; then came the assurance
> to the family.
>
> Cooler heads prevailed.
>
> They had to know they weren't sending their daughter off to some penniless
> beggar with big ideas and no substance.
>
>
>
> So: methinks it would be better for you to list all the great things about
> yourself (shiny black hair, education; like that).
>
>
>
> Just a suggestion.
>
>
>
> Thanks for looking at my photos. As you can see; chubby old white lump gets
> Thai cutie.
>
> Thankfully; the kids got their looks & brains from mom.
>
> If they took after me, well;..... glad that didn't happen.
>
>
>
> J
>







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[asianamericanromance] Re: Being Human

--- In asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com, "Khwan" <khwan@...> wrote:
>
>
>
> --- In asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com, Furvert <furvert@> wrote:
> >
> >
> > Supporting family has many levels of comfort and varies with where you live.
> > I personally think $25,000 income per person in the family will support
> > them quite well, anything more is luxuries. But that amount does need to
> > adjust for location, what is fine in the Midwest is not enough on the
> > coasts due to housing costs.
>
>
>
> I think that amount need to be adjusted VERY much. And I think you need to make clear and define what you think is luxuries and what others might think .
>
> In Los Angeles. That $25,000 might pay for a 2 bedroom apartment. But will not even start to pay for other costs-electricity. water. etc.
>
> When you add costs like food. Car payment. Insurance. Even more money is needed before you can can even start living.
>
> So what is luxuries? Going out the eat? A car? Going to movies? Going to concerts? Traveling? Cellphones?
>
> Moving from another country has many expenses. Long distance calls. Traveling back home to visit relatives. Etc. Are these luxuries not included in $25,000?
>
> And is the $25,000 before or after taxes?
>
>
>
>
>
>
> Also. Since this Group is about AsianAmerican relationship-and many here came here to get married on Fiance Visa you have to think that many people can not get job very fast when they first start living here.
>
>
> And I still not know where all of these cheap houses are. I do reasearch and it say that the CHEAPEST city in the USA (in Iowa) average price for a house is $80,000. That is the CHEAPEST in the country. The average prices for house in the USA is $320,000.
>
> So maybe it cheap in your area-but for most people it not same.
>
>
>
> KHWAN
>

As I said 25,000 per person in the family and in the Midwest. Iowa is one of the Midwest states.

So a family of 4 at $100,000 a year income would live decently in the Midwest. More is needed in other areas MOSTLY for housing costs as the other costs do not vary as much. So I suppose a better range needs to be calculated for a few sample cities. Home pricing just went through a major collapse due to high inflation and lending, so prices could have changed recently as well. That 3 bedroom home in the second largest city of Nebraska has gone from $30,000 through $100,000 in the last 20 years. The land it sits on has gone from $3,000 to $30,000 simply because there is less city land to build on. But the city expands at more than 5,000 people a year and more farm land gets turns into housing. Smaller towns are still a lot cheaper but that is changing as they turn into suburbs of the larger cities. But certain minimal standards for entertainment is needed as well, though so is safety. Would you allow your child to walk somewhere alone? Not in many cities, but there is far less problems with that in the Midwest. But that too is changing...

Ooops, I just checked and the company that sold the 3 bedroom home has raised prices from when I last looked. They are $148,000 now for the same home that sold for $30,000 20 years ago. Well it would have newer appliances but mostly the same design.

This is not a statement of my income. For example I lost a $500,000 contract at the last second last year because the boss's son in accounting messed up. That foul up meant it could not be done in time so they had to cancel. Oh well that cost them over 3 million as a result but I made nothing out of it even though I put in a huge amount of effort designing it. But they may decide to do it eventually in which case I make a lot. It just shows income can jump about crazily.

But money is something that anyone could get in huge amounts now days. The question becomes how much is really enough. If you have more than you can reasonably use, should you keep it? Or should you spend it to help others?

And when you speak of Billions there is no doubt it is more than is needed for any life style. So hording such assets is bad for many people. Sadly it is such gathering of wealth that is hurting this country. But I suppose I should get off my lazy butt and make a few billion to be able to show by example... And maybe having it would cause me to fail that test. But I help others no matter how little I have at the time, so maybe I would pass. Being a Nice Guy has problems, many just see you as someone to take advantage of. That has become the issue with big business, they have lost the Ethics and only see the $$$, who cares what damage is done to others as long as they make more $$$.

But this has wandered a bit off course and still it shows Sharon's 2 million may not be that much more than what is needed in much of this country. It appears I may need to raise my standards?

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Re: [asianamericanromance] Re: My criterion in hubby



Hi again Sharon :)

Wow you are fast !

Thanks for your compliment if I can take them as compliment ;)

I believe each human have their own strength even when they don't realize it. Often the strenght come when its needed and sometime it can amaze our self wondering how we can be so strong while all this time we always think that actually we are week. I've been there and am sure most of us also :)

Hahahahahaha sure will send you one red envelope when I am getting married, provided I know your address ;) and if you willing to wait for abit ;)

I always learn that no human are perfect and that's including me. But we always can improve ourself so we can become better and better. I learned more past few days from all the comments come because of your 'advertisement' so for that I have to say thank you to all, especially to you sharon and khwan :)

Cheers
Rose



Happiness - To appreciate what we have and to be able to enjoy them
Sent with lots of best wishes and powered by Faith


From: "Sharon" <lin.sharon123@yahoo.com>
Sender: asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com
Date: Sun, 13 Jun 2010 04:33:21 -0000
To: <asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com>
ReplyTo: asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com
Subject: [asianamericanromance] Re: My criterion in hubby

 

Hi Rose,

I also think you are a sensible delicate person,however, your kind of person always stronger on confronting hardship.

It's cool if you were advertising. I won't charge you but do send me a red envelop once you got married thanks to the posting. lol

cheers,
Sharon

--- In asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com, "Rose" <pinkiee.roses@...> wrote:
>
> Hi again Sharon
>
> First let me say this :
> Wow, you are an active person :)
>
> Actually I am not advertising but just putting my criterion of a hubby. You can say I am advertising if I am looking for one :)
> But I am not looking for one now but will not say no if love does come ;)
>
> I think what John said is correct, I am just being a sensible person, base on my friends and my own experience. We all, specially a woman need to have a financial security. The amount would be depend on our own dream :)
>
>
>
>
> Happiness - To appreciate what we have and to be able to enjoy them
> Sent with lots of best wishes and powered by Faith
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: "Sharon" <lin.sharon123@...>
> Sender: asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com
> Date: Sat, 12 Jun 2010 11:54:37
> To: <asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com>
> Reply-To: asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com
> Subject: [asianamericanromance] Re: My criterion in hubby
>
> Hi Rose,
>
> That's smart of you too to advertise on here. :)
> I think you are a lovely simple gal from your posting that you have a picture of your sweet family with consideration in many aspects.
>
> Lastly hereby the follwoing message from me again is my favour for you which would make you sound even a lot more lovely.
>
> [Start of my message]
> Hi all,
>
> My name is Sharon,asian born 1974. Anyone who are qualified to the below mentioned conditions could reply to this msg.
>
> Male, straight, never been married nor had kids
> Age: older than me n younger than 49
> Asset: around 2 millions usd or above
> Height: taller than 5'7 or 172cm
> Look: decent appearance
> Character: average or above
>
> Thanks,
> Sharon
> [End of my message]
>
>
> cheers,
> Sharon
>
>
> --- In asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com, "Rose" <pinkiee.roses@> wrote:
> >
> > Hi sharon :)
> >
> > Thank you for your comment :)
> >
> > I am thinking now, should I say my criterion in hubby too ? :)
> > Well what the heck .... I am a gal with a dream for my own future also but maybe a bit more simple than you(is it :p), could be because of the way I am raised up.
> >
> > He must be a loving person, and a responsable person. I rather have a bit of freedom of my own where I can work and earn for saving :)
> > He must treat me equally, coz from my friends experience, some men do treat the wife / partner like maid.
> > He must be a bit funny too of course ;)
> > He must be a stable person where got saving uhmmmm say at least $100k which is enough for minimum of 5 years comfortable living in my country with careful budgetting.
> > He must have a house, own house so there will be no worry where are we gonna stay next and hassle of moving from one house to another :)
> >
> > Opppsssss by having such criterions, should I be a pretty girl ? :)
> >
> > Let's have discussion in here .... Men please do tell what is your criterion od wife :)
> >
> > Sent on date 6/12/2010 time 15:15
> >
> >
> > Happiness - To appreciate what we have and to be able to enjoy them
> > Sent with lots of best wishes and powered by Faith
> >
> > -----Original Message-----
> > From: "Sharon" <lin.sharon123@>
> > Sender: asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com
> > Date: Sat, 12 Jun 2010 06:04:20
> > To: <asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com>
> > Reply-To: asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com
> > Subject: [asianamericanromance] Re: My criterion in hubby
> >
> > Hi Rose,
> >
> > That's a beautiful statment in your previous message.
> >
> > A common topic is easier to attract responding I guess since everyone has his/her criterion in gf/bf or wiffy/hubby. We are simply part of the natural world as a prime kind of creature. We are developing our civilization n society where family is the basic unite, hence mate play an important role.
> >
> > Your modest comment is a fresh to this topic and I believe you would have a lovely hubby.
> >
> > cheers,
> > Sharon
> >
> >
> >
> >
> >
> >
> >
> > --- In asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com, "Rose" <pinkiee.roses@> wrote:
> > >
> > > Hi,
> > >
> > > Been watching this group lately and well -sorry- I said at least now this group alive. In all the yahoo groups I join, there will always be passive members and tend to hide behind the scene. But past few days, this group started to 'alive' even with cynical comments.
> > >
> > > I am just an ordinary person, am not an american, am not thai also - even tho I wish to be one coz I find most of thai ladies are really pretty- and I join this group in hope of finding friennds :)
> > >
> > > Sharon got every rights to say what she wants in a man whom she wants to be her husband. And who we are have a right to judge other people wants, other people dreams ? Each people has their own dream and needs, and its up to them how they want it. Its a free world.
> > >
> > > And just like all the girls in the world, maybe including me :p, wants to have better husband, better future. Especially once we enter marriage life, its not about man and woman only but also goot kids to think about. Isn't it better oif we can see all from the bright side instead of the dark side ?
> > >
> > > Its just my 2cents :)
> > > Hope this group will become the best group :)
> > >
> > > Cheers
> > > Rose
> > >
> > >
> > > Happiness - To appreciate what we have and to be able to enjoy them
> > > Sent with lots of best wishes and powered by Faith
> > >
> > > -----Original Message-----
> > > From: "Sharon" <lin.sharon123@>
> > > Sender: asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com
> > > Date: Thu, 10 Jun 2010 23:56:50
> > > To: <asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com>
> > > Reply-To: asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com
> > > Subject: [asianamericanromance] Re: My criterion in hubby
> > >
> > > Hi Mike,
> > >
> > > (1)You said you are married but you browsed on this website and even involved your son to course together with you on here.
> > >
> > > (2)You rephrase our words into a bad side.
> > >
> > > (3)I have never lived in English speaking countries, that's why I am not familiar with English.
> > >
> > > (4)I think the group offer a cool channcel for free expression n that's why our post is on here.
> > >
> > >
> > > Sharon
> > >
> > > --- In asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com, Mike Kosak <mwk_14059@> wrote:
> > > >
> > > > fuck off Steve you wuss
> > > > ?
> > > > For the record, this is my last post-, but let me give a history for the new joiners to this thread who seem not to have been paying attention to the start of it.
> > > > ?
> > > > 1) someone named Sharon sent an email posting herself available for a man with $2million USD
> > > > ?
> > > > 2) MANY (!!!) people? replied that she was offering herself for sale like a whore, others suggesting she was too old to be worth that kind of money, over the hill, christmas cake (?).? etc.etc..?
> > > > ?
> > > > 3) Sharon replied many times again, in language that seemed to indicate she was not very familiar with english language and/or culture
> > > > ?
> > > > 4) I THEN TRIED TO DEFEND?Sharon - suggesting that she be given the benefit of the doubt (this is after all a site to discuss asian-american romance and the difference in culture that may arise)?
> > > > ?
> > > > 5) Khwan replied that I was wrong and revealed her thoughts about american men being fat ugly and old, and looking for young sexy asian because they cannot find it at home,?and also that men want a maid servant and baby factory.? Khwan also said that since men 'make a list' of things, it was OK for Sharon to make demands too.
> > > > ?
> > > > 6) I replied that her comment was pretty cynical (for the moderator of a group) and she revealed a little more of her thoughts about amercian men then she might have wanted to (being the moderator of the group here)
> > > > ?
> > > > 7) Khwan, missing the boat ENTIRELY, replied in a rude and demeaning manner and even brought my children into the discussion
> > > > ?
> > > > 8) I caller her a bitch for her bitchiness (and dont forget- we now also know what the MODERATOR of the group thinks about fat, old, ugly american men)
> > > > ?
> > > > 9) other people chimed in with their name calling
> > > > ?
> > > > This group is NOT well led, and the members are prone to knee-jerk name calling and insulting behavior.
> > > > ?
> > > > So... please some one either remove my name from this group or tell me how I do it.
> > > > ?
> > > > ?
> > > >
> > > >
> > > > --- On Thu, 6/10/10, Steve Goldade <stevegoldade@> wrote:
> > > >
> > > >
> > > > From: Steve Goldade <stevegoldade@>
> > > > Subject: Re: [asianamericanromance] Re: My criterion in hubby
> > > > To: asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com
> > > > Date: Thursday, June 10, 2010, 11:39 AM
> > > >
> > > >
> > > > ?
> > > >
> > > >
> > > >
> > > >
> > > >
> > > > Khwan
> > > > ?
> > > > From another man, I truely support your thoughts. This dud appears to be a real jerk.
> > > >
> > > >
> > > >
> > > >
> > > >
> > > > From: Khwan <khwan@khwan. com>
> > > > To: asianamericanromanc e@yahoogroups. com
> > > > Sent: Wed, June 9, 2010 8:15:10 PM
> > > > Subject: [asianamericanroman ce] Re: My criterion in hubby
> > > >
> > > > ?
> > > >
> > > > What a sad little man you must really be.
> > > >
> > > > As soon as a woman says something you do not agree with you call them whores and bitches.
> > > >
> > > > Is this how your mother raised you to treat women?
> > > >
> > > > No need to post a reply. This Group has had enough disrespect and name calling from you.
> > > >
> > > > Consider yourself not welcome to post here any more in the future until you learn to respect women.
> > > >
> > > > KHWAN
> > > >
> > > > --- In asianamericanromanc e@yahoogroups. com, Mike Kosak <mwk_14059@ .> wrote:
> > > > >
> > > > > wow- what a bitch you are
> > > > >
> > > > >
> > > > > --- On Wed, 6/9/10, Khwan <khwan@> wrote:
> > > > >
> > > > >
> > > > > From: Khwan <khwan@>
> > > > > Subject: [asianamericanroman ce] Re: My criterion in hubby
> > > > > To: asianamericanromanc e@yahoogroups. com
> > > > > Date: Wednesday, June 9, 2010, 6:43 PM
> > > > >
> > > > >
> > > > > ??
> > > > >
> > > > >
> > > > >
> > > > > Mike:
> > > > >
> > > > > I fear that it is you who revealed more about yourself than you think.
> > > > >
> > > > > I NEVER called ALL men who go to Asia "fat, ugly, poor, slobs". Maybe you see yourself as that and see my words as reflection of poor self-image? I said that many men who not considered attractive or older in USA go to Asia to find younger girlfriends and wives. The reason is simple-they not want older and less attractive women in the USA. This is the reason why so many people here prejudice over lady older than 30 years old-and this criticism coming from men 45-60 years old.
> > > > >
> > > > > As for revealing yourself more-I think any man who calls a woman he never met a "whore" has no respect for women in general. And the type of man who has this little respect is exactly the kind of man that sadly often looks to women of other countries for a relationship. Maybe you think it OK to call women whores because you not agree with them-I do not. It is rude and shows lack of education and manners and respect.
> > > > >
> > > > > Again. I not say this is for ALL men. But I think most women would have little to do with a man who disrepects women like you have.
> > > > >
> > > > > KHWAN
> > > > >
> > > > > --- In asianamericanromanc e@yahoogroups. com, Mike Kosak <mwk_14059@> wrote:
> > > > > >
> > > > > > your opion that all the men who went to asia are fat ugly poor slobs is the cynical part
> > > > > > ??šÃ‚Â?
> > > > > > the idiots who posted that she was over 30 were stupid too.
> > > > > > ??šÃ‚Â?
> > > > > > They revealed themselves for the idiots they are, but she started out by coming on as a gold digging whore
> > > > > > ??šÃ‚Â?
> > > > > >
> > > > > >
> > > > > > --- On Wed, 6/9/10, Khwan <khwan@> wrote:
> > > > > >
> > > > > >
> > > > > > From: Khwan <khwan@>
> > > > > > Subject: [asianamericanroman ce] Re: My criterion in hubby
> > > > > > To: asianamericanromanc e@yahoogroups. com
> > > > > > Date: Wednesday, June 9, 2010, 5:44 PM
> > > > > >
> > > > > >
> > > > > > ??šÃ‚Â?
> > > > > >
> > > > > >
> > > > > >
> > > > > > What part I say is cynical? It is true. MANY older men in the West (USA) go to Asia to find younger girls.
> > > > > >
> > > > > > Look at the posts here for the last few days.
> > > > > >
> > > > > > EVERY man who posted against Shannon was over 45. And yet they were critical of her because she was over 30. Spoiled milk someone called her.
> > > > > >
> > > > > > Is that not double standard?
> > > > > >
> > > > > > I not say this 100% of the men who are in relationships with Asian woman. But if you not think it common-I think your eyes are closed.
> > > > > >
> > > > > > KHWAN
> > > > > >
> > > > > > --- In asianamericanromanc e@yahoogroups. com, Mike Kosak <mwk_14059@> wrote:
> > > > > > >
> > > > > > > wow- i think you might have revealed a little more about your cynical attitude toward american man than you might have intended
> > > > > > > ??�šÃ‚Â�
> > > > > > >
> > > > > > >
> > > > > > > --- On Wed, 6/9/10, Khwan <khwan@> wrote:
> > > > > > >
> > > > > > >
> > > > > > > From: Khwan <khwan@>
> > > > > > > Subject: [asianamericanroman ce] Re: My criterion in hubby
> > > > > > > To: asianamericanromanc e@yahoogroups. com
> > > > > > > Date: Wednesday, June 9, 2010, 4:15 PM
> > > > > > >
> > > > > > >
> > > > > > > ??�šÃ‚Â�
> > > > > > >
> > > > > > >
> > > > > > >
> > > > > > >
> > > > > > >
> > > > > > > --- In asianamericanromanc e@yahoogroups. com, Mike Kosak <mwk_14059@> wrote:
> > > > > > > >
> > > > > > > > SHE STARTED IT!???'?¢â?šÂ¬Ã…¡ÃÆ'â?¬Å¡Ãƒâ€šÃ‚ ÃÆ'?'?¢â?šÂ¬Ã…¡ÃÆ'â?¬Å¡Ãƒâ€šÃ‚ ÃÆ'?'?¢â?šÂ¬Ã…¡ÃÆ'â?¬Å¡Ãƒâ€šÃ‚Â?
> > > > > > > >
> > > > > > > > Ok now that we have received a few more responses from her it is starting to seem more like a cultural difference
> > > > > > > >
> > > > > > > > In this country expressing how much assets you demand of your furutre husband is not going to go over very big.???'?¢â?šÂ¬Ã…¡ÃÆ'â?¬Å¡Ãƒâ€šÃ‚Â?It makes you sound like you have a price tag for your 'services' and we know what that is called (prostitution)
> > > > > > > >
> > > > > > >
> > > > > > > I understand this point of view.
> > > > > > >
> > > > > > > At same time-I understand her point of view. Men so many times look to Asia for girlfriends and wives because they not can find same in their country.
> > > > > > >
> > > > > > > They have big long list of what they want:
> > > > > > >
> > > > > > > Young. Pretty. Work hard like maid to take care of house.
> > > > > > >
> > > > > > > Give husband children or take care of children husband have.
> > > > > > >
> > > > > > > And these lists come from older men who are overweight and not attractive or not have good jobs. These men not can find sexy young girls in USA that want to date them. So they think that they can find that in Asia.
> > > > > > >
> > > > > > > So if men have list of what they want-what is wrong with women have same list?
> > > > > > >
> > > > > > > > And I wonder if you understand the value of $2million USD- it is less than 1% of the population that has that kind of money (that would be considered very very rich)
> > > > > > > >
> > > > > > >
> > > > > > > That is still 3,000,000 people. So it not impossible to find.
> > > > > > >
> > > > > > > And again. I go back to what I say before. Why is this bad when men have long list of what they want in Asia girl-a list that they could never find in the USA?
> > > > > > >
> > > > > > > ??�šÃ‚Â�
> > > > > > >
> > > > > > > > One potential girl friend I met told me her family expected me to pay them $1million USD for marriage to her.???'?¢â?šÂ¬Ã…¡ÃÆ'â?¬Å¡Ãƒâ€šÃ‚Â?I had to explain to them that it was the same as 40million tb - when they really only meant $5,000 usd (but hiked it up higher, because they think all americans are rich)
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> > > > > > > Are not all American's rich?
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> > > > > > > Or I should say most much more rich than Thai families.
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> > > > > > > > But people in USA RARELY talk in terms of millions of USD. That is still one hell of a lot of money
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> > > > > > > > For example- a nice house can be purchased for $100,000.castle (like the one I own) can be purchased for $450,000.
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> > > > > > > In Los Angeles it almost impossible to find little house in not great neighborhood for less than $450,000.
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> > > > > > > I think for $100,000 you can lease a nice parking space.
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> > > > > > > > Some areas of the country had homes approcahcing 700K to $1million but those over-inflated price days are long gone- wiped out in the real estate crash last year.
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> > > > > > > Again. Not in California.
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> > > > > > > KHWAN
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