Asian American Romance: 06/14/10

RE: [asianamericanromance] Re: My criterion in hubby

i am not lol

To: asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com
From: nitinrawat86@yahoo.in
Date: Tue, 15 Jun 2010 11:21:50 +0530
Subject: RE: [asianamericanromance] Re: My criterion in hubby

WHY ALL OF U R ARGUING

--- On Mon, 14/6/10, Arnaldo Beni <hab77@hotmail.com> wrote:

From: Arnaldo Beni <hab77@hotmail.com>
Subject: RE: [asianamericanromance] Re: My criterion in hubby
To: "asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com" <asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com>
Date: Monday, 14 June, 2010, 8:21 AM

yes

To: asianamericanromanc e@yahoogroups. com
From: lin.sharon123@ yahoo.com
Date: Mon, 14 Jun 2010 08:04:42 +0000
Subject: [asianamericanroman ce] Re: My criterion in hubby

Hi Beni,

That's a good question.Beofore I give out my answer.
You still haven't answer mine. Are you qualified ?

cheers,
Sharon

--- In asianamericanromanc e@yahoogroups. com, Arnaldo Beni <hab77@...> wrote:
>
>
> well why does sharon not chat with me
>
>
>
> To: asianamericanromanc e@yahoogroups. com
> From: pinkiee.roses@ ...
> Date: Mon, 14 Jun 2010 01:24:07 +0000
> Subject: Re: [asianamericanroman ce] Re: My criterion in hubby
>
>
>
>
>
> Hi Arnold,
>
> Because I am not looking for any hubby at the moment :)
> And beside that, sharon is looking first and if I am also looking, don't you think I have to que first ? ;)
>
> Cheers
> ~Rose~
>
>
> Happiness - To appreciate what we have and to be able to enjoy them
> Sent with lots of best wishes and powered by Faith
>
>
>
> From: Arnaldo Beni <hab77@...>
> Sender: asianamericanromanc e@yahoogroups. com
> Date: Sun, 13 Jun 2010 20:40:02 -0400
> To: asianamericanromanc e@yahoogroups. com<asianamericanromanc e@yahoogroups. com>
> ReplyTo: asianamericanromanc e@yahoogroups. com
> Subject: RE: [asianamericanroman ce] Re: My criterion in hubby
>
>
>
> hi why do you have to wait for sharon?
>
>
>
> To: asianamericanromanc e@yahoogroups. com
> From: pinkiee.roses@ ...
> Date: Mon, 14 Jun 2010 00:17:49 +0000
> Subject: Re: [asianamericanroman ce] Re: My criterion in hubby
>
>
>
>
> Hi Arnold,
>
> I always online and sometimes really late one coz of my pending works :)
>
> Oppppssss let me think first .... Maybe you want to know why I am here, is it ?
>
> Like I stated in few of my emails, I want to spread my wings. I know that I can learn so much from other people as well as others learn from me also :). And beside that practicing my english, its been a long time am not using english to talk. I miss it though. And who knows, maybe after sharon I can find someone also ???? ;)
>
> Cheers
> ~Rose~
>
>
> Happiness - To appreciate what we have and to be able to enjoy them
> Sent with lots of best wishes and powered by Faith
>
>
>
> From: Arnaldo Beni <hab77@...>
> Sender: asianamericanromanc e@yahoogroups. com
> Date: Sun, 13 Jun 2010 14:22:16 -0400
> To: asianamericanromanc e@yahoogroups. com<asianamericanromanc e@yahoogroups. com>
> ReplyTo: asianamericanromanc e@yahoogroups. com
> Subject: RE: [asianamericanroman ce] Re: My criterion in hubby
>
>
> cool so what brings you on line if may i ask?
>
>
>
> To: asianamericanromanc e@yahoogroups. com
> From: pinkiee.roses@ ...
> Date: Sun, 13 Jun 2010 15:16:34 +0000
> Subject: Re: [asianamericanroman ce] Re: My criterion in hubby
>
>
>
>
> Hi Arnold,
>
> I think I have mentioned that I am from indonesia, a chinese lady who lived in Jakarta :)
>
> Cheers
> ~Rose~
>
> Happiness - To appreciate what we have and to be able to enjoy them
> Sent with lots of best wishes and powered by Faith
>
>
>
> From: Arnaldo Beni <hab77@...>
> Sender: asianamericanromanc e@yahoogroups. com
> Date: Sun, 13 Jun 2010 11:04:42 -0400
> To: asianamericanromanc e@yahoogroups. com<asianamericanromanc e@yahoogroups. com>
> ReplyTo: asianamericanromanc e@yahoogroups. com
> Subject: RE: [asianamericanroman ce] Re: My criterion in hubby
>
>
> Rose where are from?
>
>
>
> To: asianamericanromanc e@yahoogroups. com
> From: pinkiee.roses@ ...
> Date: Sun, 13 Jun 2010 14:13:29 +0000
> Subject: Re: [asianamericanroman ce] Re: My criterion in hubby
>
>
>
>
> Hahahahaha you are indeed make me smile with all your explanations :)
>
> Now you have made me take a good look to my self and wondering... . Uhmmm am I really like the one you describe here ??? Ohhhhhhh geesss make my self scare to become a fat sloppy women ..... ;)
>
> And about your comment of happiness .... Hahahahaha again you manage to make me smile. Actually if you want we can have another discussion here on this topic and I am sure that lots of people have their own description of happiness and am curious about sharon's one ;)
>
> Cheers
> ~Rose~
>
>
>
> Happiness - To appreciate what we have and to be able to enjoy them
> Sent with lots of best wishes and powered by Faith
>
>
>
> From: "Just For Birds" <justforbirds@ ...>
> Sender: asianamericanromanc e@yahoogroups. com
> Date: Sun, 13 Jun 2010 06:12:37 -0700
> To: <asianamericanromanc e@yahoogroups. com>
> ReplyTo: asianamericanromanc e@yahoogroups. com
> Subject: RE: [asianamericanroman ce] Re: My criterion in hubby
>
>
>
>
> OH!
>
> Well; when someone gets that fat???sloppiness is a part of the picture because it's just not possible to wash all them there hard-to-get unmentionable spots.
>
> Sorry for the imagery there folks.
>
> And; the food that it takes to maintain the girth! My Gawd; you always see them with a foot-long hot dog or a super-size Big Gulp and a candy bar or ice cream cone or maybe a whole family sized bucket of KFC. I never seen a neat grossly obese person (so; like men fit the description, too except than Gawd: no spandex (well: except in San Francisco & the West end of Vancouver). The usually wear their food in public; a ketchup stain here; some juice there; pancake syrup on the chin; like that. It's kinda sad actually `cause they just don't have the time to get cleaned up; there being so much more acreage that the "regular?person.
>
>
> Which reminds me of another strange fact in life.
> You will always; always, always see some kind of pastry or cake or bakery shop within line-of-sight to the entrance of a Jenny Craig or Weight Watchers entrance door.
> This is no urban myth. It is a fact I have discovered and tested hundreds of times.
> Where do you think these poor folks go either before or after or before and after their meetings?
> It is truly bizarre.
>
> Happiness: winning a huge lottery, buying the property next door to someone who said
> you'd never amount to anything and turning the property into a soup kitchen for the homeless.
>
>
> [ Responding to your original e-mail:]
> Hahahaha thanks J for your definition of fat sloppy women :)
> But don't you think what you discribe means fat only ?
> Then what is the different between fat sloppy women and fat women ?
>
> Sorry if asking too much, but I perfer to ask straight instead be a blurr gal ;) and also appologize if I got it wrongly, most because of my english limitation.
>
> Cheers
> ~Rose~
> Happiness - To appreciate what we have and to be able to enjoy them
>

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Re: [asianamericanromance] Re: Ladies: a warning!

WELL I AM FROM INDIA THE QUEEN OF ALL CLIMATES

--- On Mon, 14/6/10, Sharon <lin.sharon123@yahoo.com> wrote:

From: Sharon <lin.sharon123@yahoo.com>
Subject: [asianamericanromance] Re: Ladies: a warning!
To: asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com
Date: Monday, 14 June, 2010, 7:42 AM

Hi Jerry,

It's always interesting to hear your stories.
Vacouvour is a nice place.

cheers,
Sharon

--- In asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com, "Just For Birds" <justforbirds@...> wrote:
>
> Arnaldo:
>
>
>
> Better tell her what part of Canada you're from.
>
> If you're from like Whitehorse or Toronto; it will be too cold for her.
>
> No sense getting a serious romance going and then find out she won't want
> any icicle hanging off her nose from October-March.
>
> I told my wife (from Thailand) how nice Vancouver was; LOL she's still
> brings this up each & every time it snows.
>
> Trust a woman to remember all these little promises.. GAWD! Gimme a break,
> honey!
>
> While we don't have sharks in our waters; we do have Orcas: AKA Killer
> Whales (like giant sharks that are very smart!)
>
> And yes; BC & Alberta & Sask. & Manitoba & Ontario all have poisonous
> snakes(rattlesnakes; a kind of pit viper).
>
> But; not to worry: there are only 26 different snakes in Canada and only 4
> types are poisonous and only some of the others are painful when they bite.
>
> Vancouver Island has some kinda poisonous spider; the Hobo spider.
>
> Not to worry there; if it bites and they can amputate the affected area: you
> may be O.K.!
>
> Otherwise..well; we can all get drunk at the wake and remember how great you
> were.
>
>
>
> And then the cougars (not women over 40); real live cougars and bobcats.
>
> A Cougar is like a 9' long 2.5' high 200-lb brown cat; but not so cuddly.
>
> Only 55 cougar attacks since 199o that we know of although many missing
> campers.
>
> Did I mention the grizzly bears & polar bears?
>
> And Timber Wolves?
>
> And Wolverines; don't get one of them mad at ya'; OH! NO!
>
> I saw one once; somebody had driven over a squirrel on the Hwy. the
> wolverine thought a squirrel
>
> had gone down a hole and was digging up chunks of the Hwy pavement; they
> ain't so smart neither, but; they just won't quit.
>
> Other than the weather and animals: Canada is a wonderful place to be.
>
> Great place to raise kids as long as you're armed with a sawed off shotgun
> whilst in the playgrounds.
>
> Sadly; lots of missed shots and therefore many widowed people which is why
> we also have a very low divorce rate in Canada.
>
>
>
> Sorry, Arnaldo, for scaring off all the lovely ladies..
>
>
>
> Jerry
>
> ****************************************************************************
> ***********************************************************
>
> i guess so lol
>
>
> Criterion = criteria = qualifications = standards.
>
> i.e.: are you good enough?
>
> Do you measure up or leave something(a little or a lot) to be desired?
>
> Try: www.dictionary.com <http://www.dictionary.com/>
>
>
>
> and what is a criterion?
>
>
> for my criterion
>
> --- In asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com, Arnaldo Beni <hab77@> wrote:
> >
> >
> > qualified for what?
>

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Re: [asianamericanromance] Everyone says I look gorgeous

PLEASE POST UR PICS AGAIN, SHARON

--- On Mon, 14/6/10, Sharon <lin.sharon123@yahoo.com> wrote:

From: Sharon <lin.sharon123@yahoo.com>
Subject: [asianamericanromance] Everyone says I look gorgeous
To: asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com
Date: Monday, 14 June, 2010, 8:01 AM

Hi all,

Have you noticed that I have shared my joyce with my album on here ?
Have you peepped the girl who looks gorgeous among monsters on there?
Do take your precious time to glimpse at albums and be sure you have your sunglass on in case your eyes are burnt coz it's so ~ Hot !

Weather in Taiwan is hot most of the year.Wanna be a beast?
Among the albums, looking for your beauty now.

cheers,
Sharon

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RE: [asianamericanromance] Re: My criterion in hubby

WHY ALL OF U R ARGUING

--- On Mon, 14/6/10, Arnaldo Beni <hab77@hotmail.com> wrote:

From: Arnaldo Beni <hab77@hotmail.com>
Subject: RE: [asianamericanromance] Re: My criterion in hubby
To: "asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com" <asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com>
Date: Monday, 14 June, 2010, 8:21 AM

yes

To: asianamericanromanc e@yahoogroups. com
From: lin.sharon123@ yahoo.com
Date: Mon, 14 Jun 2010 08:04:42 +0000
Subject: [asianamericanroman ce] Re: My criterion in hubby

Hi Beni,

That's a good question.Beofore I give out my answer.
You still haven't answer mine. Are you qualified ?

cheers,
Sharon

--- In asianamericanromanc e@yahoogroups. com, Arnaldo Beni <hab77@...> wrote:
>
>
> well why does sharon not chat with me
>
>
>
> To: asianamericanromanc e@yahoogroups. com
> From: pinkiee.roses@ ...
> Date: Mon, 14 Jun 2010 01:24:07 +0000
> Subject: Re: [asianamericanroman ce] Re: My criterion in hubby
>
>
>
>
>
> Hi Arnold,
>
> Because I am not looking for any hubby at the moment :)
> And beside that, sharon is looking first and if I am also looking, don't you think I have to que first ? ;)
>
> Cheers
> ~Rose~
>
>
> Happiness - To appreciate what we have and to be able to enjoy them
> Sent with lots of best wishes and powered by Faith
>
>
>
> From: Arnaldo Beni <hab77@...>
> Sender: asianamericanromanc e@yahoogroups. com
> Date: Sun, 13 Jun 2010 20:40:02 -0400
> To: asianamericanromanc e@yahoogroups. com<asianamericanromanc e@yahoogroups. com>
> ReplyTo: asianamericanromanc e@yahoogroups. com
> Subject: RE: [asianamericanroman ce] Re: My criterion in hubby
>
>
>
> hi why do you have to wait for sharon?
>
>
>
> To: asianamericanromanc e@yahoogroups. com
> From: pinkiee.roses@ ...
> Date: Mon, 14 Jun 2010 00:17:49 +0000
> Subject: Re: [asianamericanroman ce] Re: My criterion in hubby
>
>
>
>
> Hi Arnold,
>
> I always online and sometimes really late one coz of my pending works :)
>
> Oppppssss let me think first .... Maybe you want to know why I am here, is it ?
>
> Like I stated in few of my emails, I want to spread my wings. I know that I can learn so much from other people as well as others learn from me also :). And beside that practicing my english, its been a long time am not using english to talk. I miss it though. And who knows, maybe after sharon I can find someone also ???? ;)
>
> Cheers
> ~Rose~
>
>
> Happiness - To appreciate what we have and to be able to enjoy them
> Sent with lots of best wishes and powered by Faith
>
>
>
> From: Arnaldo Beni <hab77@...>
> Sender: asianamericanromanc e@yahoogroups. com
> Date: Sun, 13 Jun 2010 14:22:16 -0400
> To: asianamericanromanc e@yahoogroups. com<asianamericanromanc e@yahoogroups. com>
> ReplyTo: asianamericanromanc e@yahoogroups. com
> Subject: RE: [asianamericanroman ce] Re: My criterion in hubby
>
>
> cool so what brings you on line if may i ask?
>
>
>
> To: asianamericanromanc e@yahoogroups. com
> From: pinkiee.roses@ ...
> Date: Sun, 13 Jun 2010 15:16:34 +0000
> Subject: Re: [asianamericanroman ce] Re: My criterion in hubby
>
>
>
>
> Hi Arnold,
>
> I think I have mentioned that I am from indonesia, a chinese lady who lived in Jakarta :)
>
> Cheers
> ~Rose~
>
> Happiness - To appreciate what we have and to be able to enjoy them
> Sent with lots of best wishes and powered by Faith
>
>
>
> From: Arnaldo Beni <hab77@...>
> Sender: asianamericanromanc e@yahoogroups. com
> Date: Sun, 13 Jun 2010 11:04:42 -0400
> To: asianamericanromanc e@yahoogroups. com<asianamericanromanc e@yahoogroups. com>
> ReplyTo: asianamericanromanc e@yahoogroups. com
> Subject: RE: [asianamericanroman ce] Re: My criterion in hubby
>
>
> Rose where are from?
>
>
>
> To: asianamericanromanc e@yahoogroups. com
> From: pinkiee.roses@ ...
> Date: Sun, 13 Jun 2010 14:13:29 +0000
> Subject: Re: [asianamericanroman ce] Re: My criterion in hubby
>
>
>
>
> Hahahahaha you are indeed make me smile with all your explanations :)
>
> Now you have made me take a good look to my self and wondering... . Uhmmm am I really like the one you describe here ??? Ohhhhhhh geesss make my self scare to become a fat sloppy women ..... ;)
>
> And about your comment of happiness .... Hahahahaha again you manage to make me smile. Actually if you want we can have another discussion here on this topic and I am sure that lots of people have their own description of happiness and am curious about sharon's one ;)
>
> Cheers
> ~Rose~
>
>
>
> Happiness - To appreciate what we have and to be able to enjoy them
> Sent with lots of best wishes and powered by Faith
>
>
>
> From: "Just For Birds" <justforbirds@ ...>
> Sender: asianamericanromanc e@yahoogroups. com
> Date: Sun, 13 Jun 2010 06:12:37 -0700
> To: <asianamericanromanc e@yahoogroups. com>
> ReplyTo: asianamericanromanc e@yahoogroups. com
> Subject: RE: [asianamericanroman ce] Re: My criterion in hubby
>
>
>
>
> OH!
>
> Well; when someone gets that fat???sloppiness is a part of the picture because it's just not possible to wash all them there hard-to-get unmentionable spots.
>
> Sorry for the imagery there folks.
>
> And; the food that it takes to maintain the girth! My Gawd; you always see them with a foot-long hot dog or a super-size Big Gulp and a candy bar or ice cream cone or maybe a whole family sized bucket of KFC. I never seen a neat grossly obese person (so; like men fit the description, too except than Gawd: no spandex (well: except in San Francisco & the West end of Vancouver). The usually wear their food in public; a ketchup stain here; some juice there; pancake syrup on the chin; like that. It's kinda sad actually `cause they just don't have the time to get cleaned up; there being so much more acreage that the "regular?person.
>
>
> Which reminds me of another strange fact in life.
> You will always; always, always see some kind of pastry or cake or bakery shop within line-of-sight to the entrance of a Jenny Craig or Weight Watchers entrance door.
> This is no urban myth. It is a fact I have discovered and tested hundreds of times.
> Where do you think these poor folks go either before or after or before and after their meetings?
> It is truly bizarre.
>
> Happiness: winning a huge lottery, buying the property next door to someone who said
> you'd never amount to anything and turning the property into a soup kitchen for the homeless.
>
>
> [ Responding to your original e-mail:]
> Hahahaha thanks J for your definition of fat sloppy women :)
> But don't you think what you discribe means fat only ?
> Then what is the different between fat sloppy women and fat women ?
>
> Sorry if asking too much, but I perfer to ask straight instead be a blurr gal ;) and also appologize if I got it wrongly, most because of my english limitation.
>
> Cheers
> ~Rose~
> Happiness - To appreciate what we have and to be able to enjoy them
>

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[asianamericanromance] Re: My criterion in hubby

Hi Khwan,

What a potent statement !
I agree with you.

cheers,
Sharon

--- In asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com, "Khwan" <khwan@...> wrote:
>
> I think Sharon wants more details in your answer. Yes not really tell much about who you are and why she should be interested in you.
>
>
> And I think this good example for all men looking-here and everywhere. You need to make effort. Just saying HERE I AM usually not enough. You need to tell the woman you interested about you so that she is interested in you.
>
> Sharon has take long time in explain who she is and who she is looking for. Now it time for gentlemen to reply and discuss same with her. Just raise your hand and say "Yes. Me." I think not enough to get her attention.
>
>
> KHWAN
>
>
> --- In asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com, Arnaldo Beni <hab77@> wrote:
> >
> >
> > yes
> >
> >
> >
> > To: asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com
> > From: lin.sharon123@
> > Date: Mon, 14 Jun 2010 08:04:42 +0000
> > Subject: [asianamericanromance] Re: My criterion in hubby
> >
> >
> >
> >
> >
> > Hi Beni,
> >
> > That's a good question.Beofore I give out my answer.
> > You still haven't answer mine. Are you qualified ?
> >
> > cheers,
> > Sharon
> >
> > --- In asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com, Arnaldo Beni <hab77@> wrote:
> > >
> > >
> > > well why does sharon not chat with me
> > >
> > >
> > >
> > > To: asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com
> > > From: pinkiee.roses@
> > > Date: Mon, 14 Jun 2010 01:24:07 +0000
> > > Subject: Re: [asianamericanromance] Re: My criterion in hubby
> > >
> > >
> > >
> > >
> > >
> > > Hi Arnold,
> > >
> > > Because I am not looking for any hubby at the moment :)
> > > And beside that, sharon is looking first and if I am also looking, don't you think I have to que first ? ;)
> > >
> > > Cheers
> > > ~Rose~
> > >
> > >
> > > Happiness - To appreciate what we have and to be able to enjoy them
> > > Sent with lots of best wishes and powered by Faith
> > >
> > >
> > >
> > > From: Arnaldo Beni <hab77@>
> > > Sender: asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com
> > > Date: Sun, 13 Jun 2010 20:40:02 -0400
> > > To: asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com<asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com>
> > > ReplyTo: asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com
> > > Subject: RE: [asianamericanromance] Re: My criterion in hubby
> > >
> > >
> > >
> > > hi why do you have to wait for sharon?
> > >
> > >
> > >
> > > To: asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com
> > > From: pinkiee.roses@
> > > Date: Mon, 14 Jun 2010 00:17:49 +0000
> > > Subject: Re: [asianamericanromance] Re: My criterion in hubby
> > >
> > >
> > >
> > >
> > > Hi Arnold,
> > >
> > > I always online and sometimes really late one coz of my pending works :)
> > >
> > > Oppppssss let me think first .... Maybe you want to know why I am here, is it ?
> > >
> > > Like I stated in few of my emails, I want to spread my wings. I know that I can learn so much from other people as well as others learn from me also :). And beside that practicing my english, its been a long time am not using english to talk. I miss it though. And who knows, maybe after sharon I can find someone also ???? ;)
> > >
> > > Cheers
> > > ~Rose~
> > >
> > >
> > > Happiness - To appreciate what we have and to be able to enjoy them
> > > Sent with lots of best wishes and powered by Faith
> > >
> > >
> > >
> > > From: Arnaldo Beni <hab77@>
> > > Sender: asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com
> > > Date: Sun, 13 Jun 2010 14:22:16 -0400
> > > To: asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com<asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com>
> > > ReplyTo: asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com
> > > Subject: RE: [asianamericanromance] Re: My criterion in hubby
> > >
> > >
> > > cool so what brings you on line if may i ask?
> > >
> > >
> > >
> > > To: asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com
> > > From: pinkiee.roses@
> > > Date: Sun, 13 Jun 2010 15:16:34 +0000
> > > Subject: Re: [asianamericanromance] Re: My criterion in hubby
> > >
> > >
> > >
> > >
> > > Hi Arnold,
> > >
> > > I think I have mentioned that I am from indonesia, a chinese lady who lived in Jakarta :)
> > >
> > > Cheers
> > > ~Rose~
> > >
> > > Happiness - To appreciate what we have and to be able to enjoy them
> > > Sent with lots of best wishes and powered by Faith
> > >
> > >
> > >
> > > From: Arnaldo Beni <hab77@>
> > > Sender: asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com
> > > Date: Sun, 13 Jun 2010 11:04:42 -0400
> > > To: asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com<asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com>
> > > ReplyTo: asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com
> > > Subject: RE: [asianamericanromance] Re: My criterion in hubby
> > >
> > >
> > > Rose where are from?
> > >
> > >
> > >
> > > To: asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com
> > > From: pinkiee.roses@
> > > Date: Sun, 13 Jun 2010 14:13:29 +0000
> > > Subject: Re: [asianamericanromance] Re: My criterion in hubby
> > >
> > >
> > >
> > >
> > > Hahahahaha you are indeed make me smile with all your explanations :)
> > >
> > > Now you have made me take a good look to my self and wondering.... Uhmmm am I really like the one you describe here ??? Ohhhhhhh geesss make my self scare to become a fat sloppy women ..... ;)
> > >
> > > And about your comment of happiness .... Hahahahaha again you manage to make me smile. Actually if you want we can have another discussion here on this topic and I am sure that lots of people have their own description of happiness and am curious about sharon's one ;)
> > >
> > > Cheers
> > > ~Rose~
> > >
> > >
> > >
> > > Happiness - To appreciate what we have and to be able to enjoy them
> > > Sent with lots of best wishes and powered by Faith
> > >
> > >
> > >
> > > From: "Just For Birds" <justforbirds@>
> > > Sender: asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com
> > > Date: Sun, 13 Jun 2010 06:12:37 -0700
> > > To: <asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com>
> > > ReplyTo: asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com
> > > Subject: RE: [asianamericanromance] Re: My criterion in hubby
> > >
> > >
> > >
> > >
> > > OH!
> > >
> > > Well; when someone gets that fat???sloppiness is a part of the picture because it's just not possible to wash all them there hard-to-get unmentionable spots.
> > >
> > > Sorry for the imagery there folks.
> > >
> > > And; the food that it takes to maintain the girth! My Gawd; you always see them with a foot-long hot dog or a super-size Big Gulp and a candy bar or ice cream cone or maybe a whole family sized bucket of KFC. I never seen a neat grossly obese person (so; like men fit the description, too except than Gawd: no spandex (well: except in San Francisco & the West end of Vancouver). The usually wear their food in public; a ketchup stain here; some juice there; pancake syrup on the chin; like that. It's kinda sad actually `cause they just don't have the time to get cleaned up; there being so much more acreage that the "regular?person.
> > >
> > >
> > > Which reminds me of another strange fact in life.
> > > You will always; always, always see some kind of pastry or cake or bakery shop within line-of-sight to the entrance of a Jenny Craig or Weight Watchers entrance door.
> > > This is no urban myth. It is a fact I have discovered and tested hundreds of times.
> > > Where do you think these poor folks go either before or after or before and after their meetings?
> > > It is truly bizarre.
> > >
> > > Happiness: winning a huge lottery, buying the property next door to someone who said
> > > you'd never amount to anything and turning the property into a soup kitchen for the homeless.
> > >
> > >
> > > [ Responding to your original e-mail:]
> > > Hahahaha thanks J for your definition of fat sloppy women :)
> > > But don't you think what you discribe means fat only ?
> > > Then what is the different between fat sloppy women and fat women ?
> > >
> > > Sorry if asking too much, but I perfer to ask straight instead be a blurr gal ;) and also appologize if I got it wrongly, most because of my english limitation.
> > >
> > > Cheers
> > > ~Rose~
> > > Happiness - To appreciate what we have and to be able to enjoy them
> > >
> >
>

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[asianamericanromance] Re: BABY NAMES

My parents had a heck of a time deciding on a name for me. Even though I
came out a month late, they hadn't settled on one and still hadn't when
they brought me home from the hospital! I think they settled on "John" just
to get it over with, LOL!

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[asianamericanromance] Re: Calif. bill would target spouses who hire hit men

What the law says here, Khwan, is that whether you hired someone to kill
your spouse or not, you are still entitled to 50% of the assets in the
divorce (California law). They want to change it so that hiring a killer would
lose you the share of the assets.

As far as common sense goes, Dickens summed it up nicely in The Pickwick
Papers:

"If that is what the law says, then the law, sir, is a ass."

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RE: [asianamericanromance] BABY NAMES

So we should all name the boys;

John, Bob, Ed, Greg or Gary.

Girls would be named:

Anne, Betty, Alice, Donna or Mary.

What a world it would be.

No Sharon’s, No Rose’s, No Cath’s.

Arnaldo: for sure you’d be in a bin someplace or maybe a John?

What a boring world with no diversity.

Of course “David” Figlio can make comments like this because he has a “normal name”.

The test was done in England that has some weird caste system and a greater disparity between the haves and have-nots.

The Lords and the “common people”.

North America & particularly Canada have a more diverse cultural content and are more accepting of all things different.

As a matter of fact; perhaps too much emphasis is put on being “different”, but; anyway everyone is very accepting and

even proud of accepting many differences (although I’m having difficulties with tattoos and body piercings).

But; I digress.

The kids at my boys’ school have some truly different names.

There are Philippine, East Indian, Afrikaans, Korean, Japanese, Thai, Hmoung, Iranian and a whack of other nationalities in their school; a great

mixture, so; the kids names are a kaleidoscopic hue of vowels and consonants!

My boys are not any different in that aspect.

We named them:

The eldest:
Asanee (Thai for “Lightning”), Show (Japanese for “to fly high quickly) Stone (to keep him grounded because the other two names keep him aloft).

The youngest:

Atid (Thai for “Sun in the Sky), Ryu (Japanese for dragon spirit) River (to keep him flowing smoothly and cool because the other two names are “hot” names).

They are both proud of the origins of their names and everyone in the school (of 600) know who they are, in part, because of their unique names.

And; surprisingly: they embody the spirit of their names, too: the older one with lofty ideas & ideals; the younger with a free spirit and a hot temper.

Their Thai and Japanese names had to be O.K.-ed at the respective temples; a lot of thought and trips to the monks with birthdates, etc.

Their grades do not suffer and they are quite popular (especially with the girls; we see this: it’s almost embarrassing) and are leaders amongst the boys.

So: I would disagree with Figlio’s ideas or maybe his ideas only work in England.

I don’t think the rest of the world is so regimented.

[ Resonding to your original e-mai:l]
Good or Bad, Baby Names Have Long-lasting Effects

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RE: [asianamericanromance] Calif. bill would target spouses who hire hit men

Ahhh…………….

How many ways there are to leave your lover?

Get out the axe Jack

Get a new gun hon.

Throw her under the bus, Gus.

Find a steep hill, Jill.

Personally; I’d put liquid mercury in a cup of Starbucks Vente Carmel Macchiato.

An air bubble in a vein works quickly; costs less than $5 and is easily lost.

The summer room fan falling into the tub; if you can get past the 20 seconds of screaming; not too bad.

Hiring biker hit-men; nah; I’m a Tim the Tool Man kinda do-it-your-selfer.

The reason she wanted him whacked while he was at work; she’d get a honkin’ big WCB settlement.

The reason the bikers ratter her out; they made BIG time points with the police AND; who

wants all the heat from whacking a cop so it was win/win for them.

Even deranged crack-head, tattooed, body pierced brain-dead addled bikers are smarter than that.

From: asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com [mailto:asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com] On Behalf Of Khwan
Sent: Monday, June 14, 2010 10:25 AM
To: asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com
Subject: [asianamericanromance] Calif. bill would target spouses who hire hit men

This might explain why houses are so much more expensive in California...or should they be cheaper?

I not understand the problem-in Thailand if man is not good, wife/girlfriend just chop it off and feed to the ducks! ;-)

OK. Serious. How bad is it when you have to have LAW that says you cannot hire someone to kill your wife/husband? I thought that common sense?

KHWAN

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RE: [asianamericanromance] Re: My criterion in hubby

Khwan is correctamundo!

Just as we got Sharon on the go to list some of her attributes( education, likes, dislikes, job; all great stuff); you need to sell yourself, too!

So:

Education (yes will not suffice)

Height(tall isn’t a good answer)

Age

Occupation

Likes/Dislikes

Abilities

Hobbies

Do a sales job for yourself.

When Sharon 1^st posted; we were onto her like a flock of magpies after a dead gopher on the Hwy.

It’s taken a few weeks, but; she’s given us some real info about herself and we can see her for a real and worthy person.

Now you gotta do same/same; ante up Bubba; what cards are you holdin’?

Fold ‘em or Show ‘em.

From: asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com [mailto:asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com] On Behalf Of Khwan
Sent: Monday, June 14, 2010 11:41 AM
To: asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com
Subject: [asianamericanromance] Re: My criterion in hubby

I think Sharon wants more details in your answer. Yes not really tell much about who you are and why she should be interested in you.

And I think this good example for all men looking-here and everywhere. You need to make effort. Just saying HERE I AM usually not enough. You need to tell the woman you interested about you so that she is interested in you.

Sharon has take long time in explain who she is and who she is looking for. Now it time for gentlemen to reply and discuss same with her. Just raise your hand and say "Yes. Me." I think not enough to get her attention.

KHWAN

--- In asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com, Arnaldo Beni <hab77@...> wrote:
>
>
> yes
>

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[asianamericanromance] Fwd: Asian

Thank you.

KHWAN

------------Forwarded message------------
From: ivory_paladin@yahoo.com
Date: Jun 14, 2010 06:56:37 PM
Subject: Asian
To: khwan@khwan.com

Happy 8 year birthday

Sincerely
David

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[asianamericanromance] Re: Asian American Romance Yahoo Group-8 Year Anniversary

8 years is a long time in Internet years. Most places don't like 8 months. It shows a level of dedication and professionalism. My hats off to everyone responsible.

Stephen

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From: Jenny Anderson <jenny201069@yahoo.com>
To: asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com
Sent: Mon, June 14, 2010 11:11:35 AM
Subject: [asianamericanromance] Re: Asian American Romance Yahoo Group-8 Year Anniversary

Quite an accomplishment. The people behind this group should be proud.

Jenny

--- In asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com, "Khwan" <khwan@...> wrote:
>
> I just looked at the calendar.
>
> On June 20-this Yahoo Group will be 8 years old!
>
>
> WOW.
>
>
>
>
> KHWAN
>

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[asianamericanromance] Re: My criterion in hubby

Its like fishing. If you don't put any bait on the hook, you'll never get a prize winning catch.

Stephen

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From: Khwan <khwan@khwan.com>
To: asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com
Sent: Mon, June 14, 2010 11:40:37 AM
Subject: [asianamericanromance] Re: My criterion in hubby

I think Sharon wants more details in your answer. Yes not really tell much about who you are and why she should be interested in you.

And I think this good example for all men looking-here and everywhere. You need to make effort. Just saying HERE I AM usually not enough. You need to tell the woman you interested about you so that she is interested in you.

Sharon has take long time in explain who she is and who she is looking for. Now it time for gentlemen to reply and discuss same with her. Just raise your hand and say "Yes. Me." I think not enough to get her attention.

KHWAN

--- In asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com, Arnaldo Beni <hab77@...> wrote:
>
>
> yes
>
>
>
> To: asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com
> From: lin.sharon123@...
> Date: Mon, 14 Jun 2010 08:04:42 +0000
> Subject: [asianamericanromance] Re: My criterion in hubby
>
>
>
>
>
> Hi Beni,
>
> That's a good question.Beofore I give out my answer.
> You still haven't answer mine. Are you qualified ?
>
> cheers,
> Sharon
>
> --- In asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com, Arnaldo Beni <hab77@> wrote:
> >
> >
> > well why does sharon not chat with me
> >
> >
> >
> > To: asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com
> > From: pinkiee.roses@
> > Date: Mon, 14 Jun 2010 01:24:07 +0000
> > Subject: Re: [asianamericanromance] Re: My criterion in hubby
> >
> >
> >
> >
> >
> > Hi Arnold,
> >
> > Because I am not looking for any hubby at the moment :)
> > And beside that, sharon is looking first and if I am also looking, don't you think I have to que first ? ;)
> >
> > Cheers
> > ~Rose~
> >
> >
> > Happiness - To appreciate what we have and to be able to enjoy them
> > Sent with lots of best wishes and powered by Faith
> >
> >
> >
> > From: Arnaldo Beni <hab77@>
> > Sender: asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com
> > Date: Sun, 13 Jun 2010 20:40:02 -0400
> > To: asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com<asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com>
> > ReplyTo: asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com
> > Subject: RE: [asianamericanromance] Re: My criterion in hubby
> >
> >
> >
> > hi why do you have to wait for sharon?
> >
> >
> >
> > To: asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com
> > From: pinkiee.roses@
> > Date: Mon, 14 Jun 2010 00:17:49 +0000
> > Subject: Re: [asianamericanromance] Re: My criterion in hubby
> >
> >
> >
> >
> > Hi Arnold,
> >
> > I always online and sometimes really late one coz of my pending works :)
> >
> > Oppppssss let me think first .... Maybe you want to know why I am here, is it ?
> >
> > Like I stated in few of my emails, I want to spread my wings. I know that I can learn so much from other people as well as others learn from me also :). And beside that practicing my english, its been a long time am not using english to talk. I miss it though. And who knows, maybe after sharon I can find someone also ???? ;)
> >
> > Cheers
> > ~Rose~
> >
> >
> > Happiness - To appreciate what we have and to be able to enjoy them
> > Sent with lots of best wishes and powered by Faith
> >
> >
> >
> > From: Arnaldo Beni <hab77@>
> > Sender: asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com
> > Date: Sun, 13 Jun 2010 14:22:16 -0400
> > To: asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com<asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com>
> > ReplyTo: asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com
> > Subject: RE: [asianamericanromance] Re: My criterion in hubby
> >
> >
> > cool so what brings you on line if may i ask?
> >
> >
> >
> > To: asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com
> > From: pinkiee.roses@
> > Date: Sun, 13 Jun 2010 15:16:34 +0000
> > Subject: Re: [asianamericanromance] Re: My criterion in hubby
> >
> >
> >
> >
> > Hi Arnold,
> >
> > I think I have mentioned that I am from indonesia, a chinese lady who lived in Jakarta :)
> >
> > Cheers
> > ~Rose~
> >
> > Happiness - To appreciate what we have and to be able to enjoy them
> > Sent with lots of best wishes and powered by Faith
> >
> >
> >
> > From: Arnaldo Beni <hab77@>
> > Sender: asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com
> > Date: Sun, 13 Jun 2010 11:04:42 -0400
> > To: asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com<asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com>
> > ReplyTo: asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com
> > Subject: RE: [asianamericanromance] Re: My criterion in hubby
> >
> >
> > Rose where are from?
> >
> >
> >
> > To: asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com
> > From: pinkiee.roses@
> > Date: Sun, 13 Jun 2010 14:13:29 +0000
> > Subject: Re: [asianamericanromance] Re: My criterion in hubby
> >
> >
> >
> >
> > Hahahahaha you are indeed make me smile with all your explanations :)
> >
> > Now you have made me take a good look to my self and wondering.... Uhmmm am I really like the one you describe here ??? Ohhhhhhh geesss make my self scare to become a fat sloppy women ..... ;)
> >
> > And about your comment of happiness .... Hahahahaha again you manage to make me smile. Actually if you want we can have another discussion here on this topic and I am sure that lots of people have their own description of happiness and am curious about sharon's one ;)
> >
> > Cheers
> > ~Rose~
> >
> >
> >
> > Happiness - To appreciate what we have and to be able to enjoy them
> > Sent with lots of best wishes and powered by Faith
> >
> >
> >
> > From: "Just For Birds" <justforbirds@>
> > Sender: asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com
> > Date: Sun, 13 Jun 2010 06:12:37 -0700
> > To: <asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com>
> > ReplyTo: asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com
> > Subject: RE: [asianamericanromance] Re: My criterion in hubby
> >
> >
> >
> >
> > OH!
> >
> > Well; when someone gets that fat???sloppiness is a part of the picture because it's just not possible to wash all them there hard-to-get unmentionable spots.
> >
> > Sorry for the imagery there folks.
> >
> > And; the food that it takes to maintain the girth! My Gawd; you always see them with a foot-long hot dog or a super-size Big Gulp and a candy bar or ice cream cone or maybe a whole family sized bucket of KFC. I never seen a neat grossly obese person (so; like men fit the description, too except than Gawd: no spandex (well: except in San Francisco & the West end of Vancouver). The usually wear their food in public; a ketchup stain here; some juice there; pancake syrup on the chin; like that. It's kinda sad actually `cause they just don't have the time to get cleaned up; there being so much more acreage that the "regular?person.
> >
> >
> > Which reminds me of another strange fact in life.
> > You will always; always, always see some kind of pastry or cake or bakery shop within line-of-sight to the entrance of a Jenny Craig or Weight Watchers entrance door.
> > This is no urban myth. It is a fact I have discovered and tested hundreds of times.
> > Where do you think these poor folks go either before or after or before and after their meetings?
> > It is truly bizarre.
> >
> > Happiness: winning a huge lottery, buying the property next door to someone who said
> > you'd never amount to anything and turning the property into a soup kitchen for the homeless.
> >
> >
> > [ Responding to your original e-mail:]
> > Hahahaha thanks J for your definition of fat sloppy women :)
> > But don't you think what you discribe means fat only ?
> > Then what is the different between fat sloppy women and fat women ?
> >
> > Sorry if asking too much, but I perfer to ask straight instead be a blurr gal ;) and also appologize if I got it wrongly, most because of my english limitation.
> >
> > Cheers
> > ~Rose~
> > Happiness - To appreciate what we have and to be able to enjoy them
> >
>

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[asianamericanromance] Re: Any other Asian man White woman couples here?

I would also like to hear about your experiences.

Stephen

________________________________
From: Khwan <khwan@khwan.com>
To: asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com
Sent: Mon, June 14, 2010 11:37:00 AM
Subject: [asianamericanromance] Re: Any other Asian man White woman couples here?

I think MANY would be interested.

May I ask do you think there has been any problems or difficulty because of your relationship and the races?

KHWAN

--- In asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com, simanton@... wrote:
>
> Don't see why we wouldn't be interested in the views of you and your wife.
> It would add another dimension to the discussions.
>
> John S.
>
>
> In a message dated 6/14/2010 8:19:32 A.M. Pacific Daylight Time,
> djtruo@... writes:
>
> I happen to be an Asian man with a white American wife.
> From what I've seen thus far, the other people in this group seem to be
> Asian women and white men.
>
>
>
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Re: [asianamericanromance] BABY NAMES

From: Khwan <khwan@khwan.com>
To: asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com
Sent: Mon, June 14, 2010 12:01:07 PM
Subject: [asianamericanromance] BABY NAMES

I know that this is about RELATIONSHIPS. But when relationships successful they lead to...babies!

Here is something to think about.

Good or Bad, Baby Names Have Long-lasting Effects

Choosing a baby name proves to be a challenging task for many parents. And they're wise to work hard at it. A name can have a profound impact on a child that reverberates well into adulthood, a growing body of research suggests.

"There is a reason why baby name books are extremely popular," said David Figlio of Northwestern University in Illinois. "We're always trying to think about the first bit of a child's identity and so if we as a society pay a lot of attention to names it makes a lot of sense that people's names might influence how they think about themselves and the way in which people might think about them."

Plenty of research suggests the name chosen impacts a baby's life well into adulthood. For instance, donning your newborn boy with a girly sounding name could mean behavioral problems later in life. And unique baby names that only your child will have can be a hardship too.

A British study of 3,000 parents released in May suggests one-in-five parents regret the name they chose for a child, many of whom were distressed over the unusual or oddly spelled names they'd chosen. And even those who didn't explicitly regret the name choice admitted there were names they knew now they wished they'd chosen then, according to the study conducted by Bounty.com. [List of history's most popular baby names.]

Girly names

Boys with names traditionally given to girls are more likely to misbehave than their counterparts with masculine names, research suggests.

When in elementary school, boys named Ashley and Shannon, for instance, behave just like their more masculine-named classmates named Brian and other boyish names.

"Once these kids hit sixth grade, all of a sudden the rates of disciplinary problems skyrocket [for those boys with girlish names], and it was much more the case if there happened to be a girl in the grade with that same name," Figlio told LiveScience.

Imagine, Figlio said, having to come face-to-face with your girly name every day when there's a girl in the classroom with a matching moniker. That suggests feelings of self-consciousness, which are perhaps magnified by teasing from others, play a role in the name-behavior link in this case.

Girls given boy names also see an effect. In a 2005 study, Figlio parsed out names by their phonemic sounds and then figured out their likelihood of belonging to a girl. For instance, the names Kayla and Isabella were so phonemically feminine their predicted probability of belonging to a girl was more than 100 percent. At the other end of the spectrum, Taylor, Madison and Alexis were phonemically predicted to be twice as likely to belong to boys than girls.

"I found girls with names that are relatively feminine in high school chose advanced coursework in humanities - and less feminine are more likely to choose math and science courses," Figlio said, adding the research focused on high-achieving girls.

He can't say that one causes the other. Perhaps parents treat one daughter, Morgan, differently from an early age than they do her sister Elizabeth, whose name is much more feminine. "Did the parents choose that when they were choosing the name or did the name end up shaping their behavior toward their daughter?" Figlio said.

Socioeconomic status and expectations

Just as a person's accent or clothing can indicate something about that individual's background or character, so can a first name. And just like any other external indicator, names can lie.

Figlio got names from millions of birth certificates, and then broke down each name into more than a thousand phonemic components. He analyzed the names for letter combinations, complexity and other factors, and then used a statistical analysis to figure out the probability that the name belonged to someone of low socioeconomic status.

"Kids who have names [that] from a linguistic perspective are likely to be given by poorly educated parents, those kids ended up being treated differently," Figlio said. "They do worse in school and are less likely to be recommended for gifted [classes] and more likely to be classified as learning disabled."

He specifically looked at more unusual baby names, since with common names people have their individual experiences that can taint one's perspective of that name. Say you went to school with a jerk named George, you're likely to associate that name with negative qualities, regardless of how the name sounds linguistically.

To account for the idea that "dropout moms" might just give their babies poor-sounding names, Figlio included siblings from the same family with both high- and low-status sounding names. (Not all "poor-sounding" names were donned by kids of low socioeconomic status.)

Meeting low expectations

The link between a name and success later in life could have to do with these kids fulfilling others' expectations of them. Names that sound as though they came from a family of low socioeconomic status, might be tagged as less capable of achieving, for instance.

"People draw subconscious cues all the time about people. You meet a person for the first time and without thinking about it on an explicit level you're looking at the way they're walking, what their accent sounds like, how they're dressed, whether they smell ... and you're developing these immediate reactions," Figlio said.

He added, "I think there's probably an evolutionary reason behind that. We're hardwired to try to figure out in a heartbeat whether or not we want to trust somebody, whether we want to run from somebody."

Today, Figlio said to imagine a teacher on the first day of class looking over his or her roster and trying to figure out what to expect from a child. Plenty of teachers have told Figlio "I have to fight myself from doing this. I see this name ... I think maybe they aren't going to have active parents."

And so the story continues. Children typically meet expectations, research has shown.

Self-esteem

Whether or not your name sounds upper class might not matter if you don't like it. Accumulating research has shown a strong link between a person's like or dislike of his or her name and high and low self-esteem, respectively.

"The relationship is so strong that when people want to measure self-esteem in a more subtle way you can do it with the name-letter task," said Jean Twenge of San Diego State University, referring to a method in which subjects report whether they like different letters of the alphabet. Those with high self-esteem will say they like those letters in their names, particularly the first letter, she said.

It makes sense if you think about how much a part of a person a name really is.

"Our names really are wrapped up in our identity, and that might be why you get this somewhat surprising finding at least in some areas," Twenge said during a telephone interview. "People who particularly dislike their name and also if other people think it's an odd and unlikeable name, that can cause some problems. [They] tend not to be as well-adjusted."

Unusual vs. common names

When it's time to pick baby's name, there are two types of parents, those who want an unusual baby name and those who prefer a more common name donned by lots of kids.

Turns out, even if the particular name chosen doesn't make a difference in a child's success later in life, whether or not that name is common or unusual does matter.

The difference between choosing, say, one of five common, relatively likeable names is small in terms of any impact on the child's life. "If you're choosing between a relatively likeable, common name and one that is really odd, that definitely could have an impact," Twenge said.

"Some of it ends up being a proxy for the parents' philosophy on life in general," Twenge said. "The parent who says 'I want my kid to be unique and stand out' and gives their kid a name that's uncommon, probably will have a parenting style that emphasizes uniqueness and standing out."

She added, "So it ends up building on itself. The type of parent who would give a really unusual name is often going to parent differently from a parent who says 'I want to give my child a name so they fit in.'"

Twenge's recent research suggests parents are, in fact, choosing more unusual baby names than decades ago.

Baby-naming advice books and blogs often suggest changing up the spelling of a common, or on-the-rise, name, in order to add some flare. Preliminary results from Figlio's work suggest that may not be wise. Children with a deviant spelling of a common name tended to have slowed spelling and reading capabilities.

"That suggests a lot about internalizing," Figlio said. "You have the child named Jennifer spelled with a "G" - her teacher says 'Are you sure your name is spelled that way?' That can be incredibly hard on a person's confidence."

All this parents end up realizing, as the Bounty study shows: One-fifth of parents in the British study wished they had chosen a name that was easier to spell; 8 percent were fed up with people being unable to pronounce the child's name; and one in 10 thought the chosen name was clever at the time, but said the novelty had worn off.

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