> #2: if you have any doubts now: better run; your doubts are probably based
> on real concerns
>
> #3: don't become "the shining knight out to save her"' she's already
> divorcing one husband and has 3 kids
And three kids is very, very odd.
> #4: what do you expect after only 1 month? Get real Man, get real!!
>
> #5: why would you "ask" her to share the expenses; all for one and one for
> all; like watch the 3 Musketeers.
>
> #6: if you're worried she just wants you for a green card..again: if you
> have these nagging doubts but are willing to make
>
> a commitment after only knowing her for a month.....
>
> #9: will she listen to you...man: you never been married before? What woman
> listens? A man will chase women until one catches him.
>
> #10: will she love you? If you gotta ask us....you be in some big whoop-ass
> trouble, bubba
>
> #11: you or her boss? Is this a boss with extracurricular benefits or what?
> If she starts taking off too
>
> much time and loses her job guess whose fault it will be and guess
> who will be holding the bag, Bud. It ain't us.
>
> #13: if she's still in China and you're here; how can you say you're
> involved with her. Engaged after only a month and she's in China?
>
> Jerry (not the captain)
>
Perhaps a bit rude and crude, but Jerry has very valid points.
Expect her to want you to pay for everything and all her money will be used for the kids. If she worked in Beijing she might also be supporting additional family.
I would like to know what is her job, what city does she work in, what ages are the kids and where are they, and why does she live with her boss. There are a lot of warning signs - what signals are you receiving that something good will come of this? Does she honestly know you, your friends, what you do, and your income or savings? Those are very important to most Chinese people, and if they are educated then education is one of the things they prioritize highly. Is she Han? Can you speak all the languages she speaks? How good is her English? Where and how did you meet? Have you seen pictures of her kids or other family?
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