Asian American Romance: June 2010

Re: [asianamericanromance] Re: Unfaithful

Words carry their own weight. Suppose instead of "picky," we say "selective"? Is there really a practical difference between the two? And yet, "picky" is a negative term and "selective" is positive! Can we blame Rose or Sharon for being selective? For wanting to be sure that the person they choose is one they will be happy with for life? I have had two marriages fail and learned to be selective from the failures.

John S.

In a message dated 6/30/2010 9:45:46 P.M. Pacific Daylight Time, pinkiee.roses@gmail.com writes:

Hi Dan and Hi Nat...

I do agree with both of you that inner beauty much more precious than just outer beauty. Outer beauty surely will fade away when we grow old :)

Being picky is our right, no one can deny that also. Each of us surely have our own desire, our own dream what kind of spouse we want to have in our life. That's why we can love one person more than the other person. We want the best for our self and we want to have a happy live :)

But then I am not agree if someone said women are too picky :) coz basically we human are the same :) we have our own need, and that's come for men and women :)

I know a relative of mind who is 55 yo already and a very close friend which will be 45 yo in 2 months time stay single, because they are too picky. They only want to have certain type of woman they want to be their wife :) can it be called too picky ??

Well if ask me, I might answer yes, ask other person, he/she might say no. Ask that person i t self, he might say he is not. All depend on which angle we see it.

Now I think the main question is, do I have good heart, that is good enough for Dan or Nat ??? ;)
(Just kidding)

Come on, let's smile and make our day beautiful today :)
Time to back to work

Cheers
~Rose~
1/7/2010|11:05

And to sharon : hiiiiii how are you ??? :D

~Watch your habits, for they become your character. Develop your character, for it becomes your destiny~

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Subject: Re: [asianamericanromance] Re: Unfaithful

nate that is great and yes it is the heart most of all be true and to ms roseive been married twice one was black the other was whiteand the best lover i ever had was a asian female.so if that being picky your right but i had the deepest respect for all the ladies in my life and loved them so much. dan

From: Nathaniel T <nathaniel_t1@yahoo.com>
To: asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com
Sent: Wed, June 30, 2010 8:43:36 PM
Subject: [asianamericanromance] Re: Unfaithful

I would have to say faithful as me and my lady has been together for years and there are times we are apart but still we are both faithful to each other and the fact we both got cheated on by others in our past and was both badly hurt by this makes us much more caring about each other feelings in this matter. Nate

--- In asianamericanromanc e@yahoogroups. com, Veronica <veiro_nieca@ ...> wrote:
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> Do you think Asians are more or less faithful to their spouses?
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> Just want to see what others have to say.
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> Veronica
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Re: [asianamericanromance] Re: Unfaithful

There it is. We're here to learn, if we are willing.

John S.

In a message dated 6/30/2010 8:16:04 P.M. Pacific Daylight Time, rsocorro@yahoo.com writes:

Yes unfaithful will eventually result to a good effect or bad effect. But usually if you are one of the victim, you tend to look for faithful one.. But if you betray someone, and then in the long run u realize its important for you to with this person. You became faithful. Life is a learning process... either good or bad.

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From: Nathaniel T <nathaniel_t1@yahoo.com>
Subject: [asianamericanromance] Re: Unfaithful
To: asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com
Date: Wednesday, June 30, 2010, 8:43 PM

I would have to say faithful as me and my lady has been together for years and there are times we are apart but still we are both faithful to each other and the fact we both got cheated on by others in our past and was both badly hurt by this makes us much more caring about each other feelings in this matter. Nate

--- In asianamericanromanc e@yahoogroups. com, Veronica <veiro_nieca@ ...> wrote:
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> Do you think Asians are more or less faithful to their spouses?
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> Just want to see what others have to say.
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> Veronica
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Re: [asianamericanromance] Re: Unfaithful

Yes, Nate, that makes a big difference. Learning the pain that cheating causes certainly suppresses the urge an a caring person.

John S.

In a message dated 6/30/2010 6:07:16 P.M. Pacific Daylight Time, nathaniel_t1@yahoo.com writes:

I would have to say faithful as me and my lady has been together for years and there are times we are apart but still we are both faithful to each other and the fact we both got cheated on by others in our past and was both badly hurt by this makes us much more caring about each other feelings in this matter. Nate

--- In asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com, Veronica <veiro_nieca@...> wrote:
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> Do you think Asians are more or less faithful to their spouses?
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> Just want to see what others have to say.
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> Veronica
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Re: [asianamericanromance] Re:Are you being too picky?

Very true, sometimes it takes us way too long to realize it.

John S.

In a message dated 6/30/2010 6:07:06 P.M. Pacific Daylight Time, nathaniel_t1@yahoo.com writes:

To this I have to say that there are both men and women in this world that too picky as to what they want to spend the rest of their life with as it's not about looks looks will fade and the only thing that makes one truly beautiful is what within the heart. Nate

--- In asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com, "Rose" <pinkiee.roses@...> wrote:
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> Can I say also :
>
> MOST men are too picky .... No matter how they look, they will always want to get the perfect match for them self and while lots of them are not even close to perfect :p
>
> Let's not become a judge here :) I always believe that once love struck, we will not care about look etc. Being picky, uhmmm nothing wrong with that in my humble pinion, because we want to try to get the best for us.
>
> If we don't care for our self then who will ? If its not us who try to get the best for our delf, then who will ? If one person decided to be too picky then its her/his own problem ... Don't like it then move on to another person. We can't force others to like us nor force our self to change to suit all other people in this world :)
>
> Come on, don't u also have a list of ur desire partner ;)
> Maybe you willing to share it with us ;)
>
> Cheers
> ~Rose~
>
>
>
> ~Watch your habits, for they become your character. Develop your character, for it becomes your destiny~
> Sent with lots of best wishes and powered by Faith
>
> -----Original Message-----
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> Sender: asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com
> Date: Tue, 19 Jan 2038 05:14:07
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> MOST women are too picky! They need to look in the mirror and be honest with what they have to offer before they start making lists of demands for their partners. IMHO
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Re: [asianamericanromance] Re: Unfaithful

Yes, tenacity pays off, Khwan!

John S.

In a message dated 6/30/2010 4:15:24 P.M. Pacific Daylight Time, khwan@khwan.com writes:

You have to give Arnaldo credit. He gets turned down in the morning and he is back in the saddle in the afternoon.

KHWAN

--- In asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com, Arnaldo Beni <hab77@...> wrote:
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> hi Veronica how are you?
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> To: asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com
> From: veiro_nieca@...
> Date: Sat, 26 Jun 2010 08:39:51 -0700
> Subject: [asianamericanromance] Unfaithful
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> Do you think Asians are more or less faithful to their spouses?
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> Just want to see what others have to say.
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> Veronica
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[asianamericanromance] Re: Unfaithful

Hi Rose,

I agree with you. :D

cheers,
Sharon

--- In asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com, "Rose" <pinkiee.roses@...> wrote:
>
> Hi Dan and Hi Nat...
>
> I do agree with both of you that inner beauty much more precious than just outer beauty. Outer beauty surely will fade away when we grow old :)
>
> Being picky is our right, no one can deny that also. Each of us surely have our own desire, our own dream what kind of spouse we want to have in our life. That's why we can love one person more than the other person. We want the best for our self and we want to have a happy live :)
>
> But then I am not agree if someone said women are too picky :) coz basically we human are the same :) we have our own need, and that's come for men and women :)
>
> I know a relative of mind who is 55 yo already and a very close friend which will be 45 yo in 2 months time stay single, because they are too picky. They only want to have certain type of woman they want to be their wife :) can it be called too picky ??
>
> Well if ask me, I might answer yes, ask other person, he/she might say no. Ask that person it self, he might say he is not. All depend on which angle we see it.
>
> Now I think the main question is, do I have good heart, that is good enough for Dan or Nat ??? ;)
> (Just kidding)
>
> Come on, let's smile and make our day beautiful today :)
> Time to back to work
>
> Cheers
> ~Rose~
> 1/7/2010|11:05
>
> And to sharon : hiiiiii how are you ??? :D
>
>
>
> ~Watch your habits, for they become your character. Develop your character, for it becomes your destiny~
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: Daniel Quinn <littlewolf35757@...>
> Sender: asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com
> Date: Wed, 30 Jun 2010 20:12:29
> To: <asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com>
> Reply-To: asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com
> Subject: Re: [asianamericanromance] Re: Unfaithful
>
> nate that is great and yes it is the heart most of? all be true and to ms roseive been married twice one was black the other was whiteand the best lover i ever had was a asian female.so if that being picky your right but i had the deepest respect for all the ladies in my life and loved them so much. dan
>
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> From: Nathaniel T <nathaniel_t1@...>
> To: asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com
> Sent: Wed, June 30, 2010 8:43:36 PM
> Subject: [asianamericanromance] Re: Unfaithful
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> ?
> I would have to say faithful as me and my lady has been together for years and there are times we are apart but still we are both faithful to each other and the fact we both got cheated on by others in our past and was both badly hurt by this makes us much more caring about each other feelings in this matter. Nate
> --- In asianamericanromanc e@yahoogroups. com, Veronica <veiro_nieca@ ...> wrote:
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> > Do you think Asians are more or less faithful to their spouses?
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> > Just want to see what others have to say.
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> > Veronica
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Re: [asianamericanromance] Re: Asian men too

Wow! IMHO, this has got to be one of the most honest and insightful posts we've had! (That's NOT to criticize other posts, BTW!). I'm very sorry your relationship with the black lady was sabotaged by your parents. Way back in my teens, I had a simple dating relationship smashed by her parents who thought I wasn't good enough. But we pick ourselves up and keep going until we find someone right!

John S.

In a message dated 6/30/2010 3:13:26 P.M. Pacific Daylight Time, djtruo@yahoo.com writes:

Thank you! I can write a whole book on all the "hurdles" I had gone through before meeting my wife.

When I was younger (teens and early 20's), my parents wanted me to only consider Asian women, and preferably only those of my own specific ethnicity (Taiwanese). My early dating experience was all bogus stuff that you might not even consider "dating." It was meetings with Asian women that had been arranged by my parents and her parents. During each of those "dates," everything was superficial BS; both me and my "date" said and did everything according to some protocol that had been made in advance by both sets of parents. None of those "dates" turned into any kind of relationship. Each time, I'd find out later that my "date" wasn't interested in Asian men, and that the only reason she saw me was because her parents had forced her to. In at least some cases, my "date" had a white boyfriend that her parents were trying to get her away from.

As I got a little older (mid to late 20's), my parents started getting impatient about me finding a wife, and in doing so they said it was ok for me to date outside of my race. For the next several years, however, I had no luck at all trying to find any white (or Asian) dates. I joined several dating services, but they also were unable to find matches for me. After having taken my money (of course), they said that it was because their female members were unwilling to date an Asian man. Over the course of those few years, in order to be able to get any matches at all, I kept repeatedly lowering my standards (specifications on what I was interested in) until everything said "doesn't matter." That's when I finally got 3 matches: one that weighed about 500 pounds and was wheelchair-bound and mentally retarded; one that had Turner's syndrome (XO chromosome which is legally considered female in humans, but considered male in other animal species) and physically resembled the hunchback of Notre Dame; and one that was almost 3 times my age and had spent most of her life in a mental institution.

When I was about 30 years old, I finally found someone who turned out to be a great partner, and we had a great relationship that lasted about 2 years. The only reason why that relationship ended was because it got sabotaged by my parents who disapproved of her. That girlfriend was in all ways a great match for me: she was a well-educated professional with advanced degrees, had the most wonderful pleasant personality, and had the kind of physical appearance that could probably make her succeed in professional modeling if she was to ever to pursue that. She also had no real negative stuff; no drugs, no illegal stuff, no excessive baggage (i.e. children, ex-husbands, etc.). There was just ONE reason why my parents disapproved of her: she was black. I found out then that my parents were still adamantly opposed to me dating a black woman (even though they were ok with me dating whites). In my parents' eyes, nothing else about her mattered once they found out she was black. They w ent so far as to declare that they would permanently "disown" me if I married her or any other black woman. What makes this all even more ridiculous is that my black girlfriend actually had about the same skin color as I did (she was mixed race, but had just enough "black blood" to offically be considered African-American).

At the time I split up with my black girlfriend, my parents were forcefully trying to get me to go overseas to find a wife. They went so far as to contact people in the Far East, and they claimed that in several cases, after their discussions with them, both the woman and her parents were willing to sign all marital papers before I even made the trip to meet them. Those people obviously didn't know me personally, and it just showed what the promise of US citizenship and huge material wealth can do to Southeast Asians of very poor impoverished background.

I managed to meet my current (white American) wife just in time, just before I was to practically get forced onto an airplane to go overseas. She and I have now been married for about the past 10 years.

--- In asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com, simanton@... wrote:
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> Glad you won through! I'm sure we'd like your insights on those hurdles!
>
> John S.
>
>
> In a message dated 6/29/2010 11:45:33 P.M. Pacific Daylight Time,
> djtruo@... writes:
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> I'm an Asian man who's married to a white American woman.
> I can definitely relate to your post. Prior to my marriage, I had
> experienced all the "hurdles" in finding dates. At some point, my parents were
> talking about sending me overseas to find a wife.
>
> --- In _asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com_
> (mailto:asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com) , "Vida L" <ucmas2000@> wrote:
> >
> > Hi All,
> > It looks like these posting are for Western men wanting Asian women.Look
> the other way around...with the all the Asian women having gone or come
> back with goodies, Asian men have more hurdles.You think they do not need to
> advance let alone go abroad.?
> > Are there people out there who can help Asian men too.Cheers
> >
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[asianamericanromance] Re:Are you being too picky?

Hi Nate,

Well said, you got msn ?

cheers,
Sharon

--- In asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com, "Nathaniel T" <nathaniel_t1@...> wrote:
>
> To this I have to say that there are both men and women in this world that too picky as to what they want to spend the rest of their life with as it's not about looks looks will fade and the only thing that makes one truly beautiful is what within the heart. Nate
>
> --- In asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com, "Rose" <pinkiee.roses@> wrote:
> >
> > Can I say also :
> >
> > MOST men are too picky .... No matter how they look, they will always want to get the perfect match for them self and while lots of them are not even close to perfect :p
> >
> > Let's not become a judge here :) I always believe that once love struck, we will not care about look etc. Being picky, uhmmm nothing wrong with that in my humble pinion, because we want to try to get the best for us.
> >
> > If we don't care for our self then who will ? If its not us who try to get the best for our delf, then who will ? If one person decided to be too picky then its her/his own problem ... Don't like it then move on to another person. We can't force others to like us nor force our self to change to suit all other people in this world :)
> >
> > Come on, don't u also have a list of ur desire partner ;)
> > Maybe you willing to share it with us ;)
> >
> > Cheers
> > ~Rose~
> >
> >
> >
> > ~Watch your habits, for they become your character. Develop your character, for it becomes your destiny~
> > Sent with lots of best wishes and powered by Faith
> >
> > -----Original Message-----
> > From: rania441@
> > Sender: asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com
> > Date: Tue, 19 Jan 2038 05:14:07
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> > Subject: [asianamericanromance] Re:Are you being too picky?
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> > MOST women are too picky! They need to look in the mirror and be honest with what they have to offer before they start making lists of demands for their partners. IMHO
> >
>

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Re: [asianamericanromance] Unfaithful

There are exceptions to every rule of thumb. But in my experience, Asian women give an absolute loyalty unless and until that loyalty is betrayed.

John S.

In a message dated 6/30/2010 2:01:11 P.M. Pacific Daylight Time, veiro_nieca@yahoo.com writes:

Do you think Asians are more or less faithful to their spouses?

Just want to see what others have to say.

Veronica

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Re: [asianamericanromance] Re: Unfaithful

Hi Dan and Hi Nat...

I do agree with both of you that inner beauty much more precious than just outer beauty. Outer beauty surely will fade away when we grow old :)

Being picky is our right, no one can deny that also. Each of us surely have our own desire, our own dream what kind of spouse we want to have in our life. That's why we can love one person more than the other person. We want the best for our self and we want to have a happy live :)

But then I am not agree if someone said women are too picky :) coz basically we human are the same :) we have our own need, and that's come for men and women :)

I know a relative of mind who is 55 yo already and a very close friend which will be 45 yo in 2 months time stay single, because they are too picky. They only want to have certain type of woman they want to be their wife :) can it be called too picky ??

Well if ask me, I might answer yes, ask other person, he/she might say no. Ask that person it self, he might say he is not. All depend on which angle we see it.

Now I think the main question is, do I have good heart, that is good enough for Dan or Nat ??? ;)
(Just kidding)

Come on, let's smile and make our day beautiful today :)
Time to back to work

Cheers
~Rose~
1/7/2010|11:05

And to sharon : hiiiiii how are you ??? :D

~Watch your habits, for they become your character. Develop your character, for it becomes your destiny~

From: Daniel Quinn <littlewolf35757@rocketmail.com>

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Date: Wed, 30 Jun 2010 20:12:29 -0700 (PDT)

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Subject: Re: [asianamericanromance] Re: Unfaithful

nate that is great and yes it is the heart most of all be true and to ms roseive been married twice one was black the other was whiteand the best lover i ever had was a asian female.so if that being picky your right but i had the deepest respect for all the ladies in my life and loved them so much. dan

From: Nathaniel T <nathaniel_t1@yahoo.com>
To: asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com
Sent: Wed, June 30, 2010 8:43:36 PM
Subject: [asianamericanromance] Re: Unfaithful

I would have to say faithful as me and my lady has been together for years and there are times we are apart but still we are both faithful to each other and the fact we both got cheated on by others in our past and was both badly hurt by this makes us much more caring about each other feelings in this matter. Nate

--- In asianamericanromanc e@yahoogroups. com, Veronica <veiro_nieca@ ...> wrote:
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>
>
>
> Do you think Asians are more or less faithful to their spouses?
>
> Just want to see what others have to say.
>
>
>
>
> Veronica
>

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Re: [asianamericanromance] Re: Unfaithful

From: Nathaniel T <nathaniel_t1@yahoo.com>
To: asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com
Sent: Wed, June 30, 2010 8:43:36 PM
Subject: [asianamericanromance] Re: Unfaithful

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Re: [asianamericanromance] Re: Unfaithful

Yes unfaithful will eventually result to a good effect or bad effect. But usually if you are one of the victim, you tend to look for faithful one.. But if you betray someone, and then in the long run u realize its important for you to with this person. You became faithful. Life is a learning process... either good or bad.

--- On Wed, 6/30/10, Nathaniel T <nathaniel_t1@yahoo.com> wrote:

From: Nathaniel T <nathaniel_t1@yahoo.com>
Subject: [asianamericanromance] Re: Unfaithful
To: asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com
Date: Wednesday, June 30, 2010, 8:43 PM

I would have to say faithful as me and my lady has been together for years and there are times we are apart but still we are both faithful to each other and the fact we both got cheated on by others in our past and was both badly hurt by this makes us much more caring about each other feelings in this matter. Nate

--- In asianamericanromanc e@yahoogroups. com, Veronica <veiro_nieca@ ...> wrote:
>
>
>
>
> Do you think Asians are more or less faithful to their spouses?
>
> Just want to see what others have to say.
>
>
>
>
> Veronica
>

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Re: [asianamericanromance] Re:Are you being too picky?

Yes you are too right... Character of the person is whats important. And look can be improve or deminished in time.

One is important that your character will have to compliment your character.

--- On Wed, 6/30/10, Nathaniel T <nathaniel_t1@yahoo.com> wrote:

From: Nathaniel T <nathaniel_t1@yahoo.com>
Subject: [asianamericanromance] Re:Are you being too picky?
To: asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com
Date: Wednesday, June 30, 2010, 8:50 PM

To this I have to say that there are both men and women in this world that too picky as to what they want to spend the rest of their life with as it's not about looks looks will fade and the only thing that makes one truly beautiful is what within the heart. Nate

--- In asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com, "Rose" <pinkiee.roses@...> wrote:
>
> Can I say also :
>
> MOST men are too picky .... No matter how they look, they will always want to get the perfect match for them self and while lots of them are not even close to perfect :p
>
> Let's not become a judge here :) I always believe that once love struck, we will not care about look etc. Being picky, uhmmm nothing wrong with that in my humble pinion, because we want to try to get the best for us.
>
> If we don't care for our self then who will ? If its not us who try to get the best for our delf, then who will ? If one person decided to be too picky then its her/his own problem ... Don't like it then move on to another person. We can't force others to like us nor force our self to change to suit all other people in this world :)
>
> Come on, don't u also have a list of ur desire partner ;)
> Maybe you willing to share it with us ;)
>
> Cheers
> ~Rose~
>
>
>
> ~Watch your habits, for they become your character. Develop your character, for it becomes your destiny~
> Sent with lots of best wishes and powered by Faith
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: rania441@...
> Sender: asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com
> Date: Tue, 19 Jan 2038 05:14:07
> To: <asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com>
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[asianamericanromance] Re:Are you being too picky?

To this I have to say that there are both men and women in this world that too picky as to what they want to spend the rest of their life with as it's not about looks looks will fade and the only thing that makes one truly beautiful is what within the heart. Nate

--- In asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com, "Rose" <pinkiee.roses@...> wrote:
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> Can I say also :
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> MOST men are too picky .... No matter how they look, they will always want to get the perfect match for them self and while lots of them are not even close to perfect :p
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> Let's not become a judge here :) I always believe that once love struck, we will not care about look etc. Being picky, uhmmm nothing wrong with that in my humble pinion, because we want to try to get the best for us.
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> If we don't care for our self then who will ? If its not us who try to get the best for our delf, then who will ? If one person decided to be too picky then its her/his own problem ... Don't like it then move on to another person. We can't force others to like us nor force our self to change to suit all other people in this world :)
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> Come on, don't u also have a list of ur desire partner ;)
> Maybe you willing to share it with us ;)
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> Cheers
> ~Rose~
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> ~Watch your habits, for they become your character. Develop your character, for it becomes your destiny~
> Sent with lots of best wishes and powered by Faith
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[asianamericanromance] Re: Unfaithful

--- In asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com, Veronica <veiro_nieca@...> wrote:
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RE: [asianamericanromance] Re: Unfaithful

well i am used to getting turned down

To: asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com
From: khwan@khwan.com
Date: Wed, 30 Jun 2010 23:14:14 +0000
Subject: [asianamericanromance] Re: Unfaithful

You have to give Arnaldo credit. He gets turned down in the morning and he is back in the saddle in the afternoon.

KHWAN

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> hi Veronica how are you?
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[asianamericanromance] Re: Unfaithful

You have to give Arnaldo credit. He gets turned down in the morning and he is back in the saddle in the afternoon.

KHWAN

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RE: [asianamericanromance] Re: Asian men too

djtruo:

I’ll be your first book buyer and reader.

What a story.

My mom used to hijack any prospect I had, too.

Finally: I just went and got married.

Sent them an invitation to the wedding in Thailand, knowing they would never make the trip.

My mom made all kinds of comments.

4 years later: they gave my wife their farm and disinherited my brother and 4 sisters.

There’s a book in-between these lines, let me tell you!

Original Jerry

From: asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com [mailto:asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com] On Behalf Of djtruo
Sent: Wednesday, June 30, 2010 3:00 PM
To: asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com
Subject: [asianamericanromance] Re: Asian men too

Thank you! I can write a whole book on all the "hurdles" I had gone through before meeting my wife.

When I was younger (teens and early 20's), my parents wanted me to only consider Asian women, and preferably only those of my own specific ethnicity (Taiwanese). My early dating experience was all bogus stuff that you might not even consider "dating." It was meetings with Asian women that had been arranged by my parents and her parents. During each of those "dates," everything was superficial BS; both me and my "date" said and did everything according to some protocol that had been made in advance by both sets of parents. None of those "dates" turned into any kind of relationship. Each time, I'd find out later that my "date" wasn't interested in Asian men, and that the only reason she saw me was because her parents had forced her to. In at least some cases, my "date" had a white boyfriend that her parents were trying to get her away from.

As I got a little older (mid to late 20's), my parents started getting impatient about me finding a wife, and in doing so they said it was ok for me to date outside of my race. For the next several years, however, I had no luck at all trying to find any white (or Asian) dates. I joined several dating services, but they also were unable to find matches for me. After having taken my money (of course), they said that it was because their female members were unwilling to date an Asian man. Over the course of those few years, in order to be able to get any matches at all, I kept repeatedly lowering my standards (specifications on what I was interested in) until everything said "doesn't matter." That's when I finally got 3 matches: one that weighed about 500 pounds and was wheelchair-bound and mentally retarded; one that had Turner's syndrome (XO chromosome which is legally considered female in humans, but considered male in other animal species) and physically resembled the hunchback of Notre Dame; and one that was almost 3 times my age and had spent most of her life in a mental institution.

When I was about 30 years old, I finally found someone who turned out to be a great partner, and we had a great relationship that lasted about 2 years. The only reason why that relationship ended was because it got sabotaged by my parents who disapproved of her. That girlfriend was in all ways a great match for me: she was a well-educated professional with advanced degrees, had the most wonderful pleasant personality, and had the kind of physical appearance that could probably make her succeed in professional modeling if she was to ever to pursue that. She also had no real negative stuff; no drugs, no illegal stuff, no excessive baggage (i.e. children, ex-husbands, etc.). There was just ONE reason why my parents disapproved of her: she was black. I found out then that my parents were still adamantly opposed to me dating a black woman (even though they were ok with me dating whites). In my parents' eyes, nothing else about her mattered once they found out she was black. They w ent so far as to declare that they would permanently "disown" me if I married her or any other black woman. What makes this all even more ridiculous is that my black girlfriend actually had about the same skin color as I did (she was mixed race, but had just enough "black blood" to offically be considered African-American).

At the time I split up with my black girlfriend, my parents were forcefully trying to get me to go overseas to find a wife. They went so far as to contact people in the Far East, and they claimed that in several cases, after their discussions with them, both the woman and her parents were willing to sign all marital papers before I even made the trip to meet them. Those people obviously didn't know me personally, and it just showed what the promise of US citizenship and huge material wealth can do to Southeast Asians of very poor impoverished background.

I managed to meet my current (white American) wife just in time, just before I was to practically get forced onto an airplane to go overseas. She and I have now been married for about the past 10 years.

--- In asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com, simanton@... wrote:
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> Glad you won through! I'm sure we'd like your insights on those hurdles!
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> John S.
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> In a message dated 6/29/2010 11:45:33 P.M. Pacific Daylight Time,
> djtruo@... writes:
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> I'm an Asian man who's married to a white American woman.
> I can definitely relate to your post. Prior to my marriage, I had
> experienced all the "hurdles" in finding dates. At some point, my parents were
> talking about sending me overseas to find a wife.
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> --- In _asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com_
> (mailto:asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com) , "Vida L" <ucmas2000@> wrote:
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> > Hi All,
> > It looks like these posting are for Western men wanting Asian women.Look
> the other way around...with the all the Asian women having gone or come
> back with goodies, Asian men have more hurdles.You think they do not need to
> advance let alone go abroad.?
> > Are there people out there who can help Asian men too.Cheers
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RE: [asianamericanromance] Unfaithful

hi Veronica how are you?

To: asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com
From: veiro_nieca@yahoo.com
Date: Sat, 26 Jun 2010 08:39:51 -0700
Subject: [asianamericanromance] Unfaithful

Do you think Asians are more or less faithful to their spouses?

Just want to see what others have to say.

Veronica

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