Asian American Romance: [asianamericanromance] Re: New Guy

Wow. This is just awful. And this is women talking about their sisters, internationally. Do you realize what you're saying?

First, you paint all the "romances" between Chinese and Indonesian females and western men as not really romance at all, just a country of people desperate for a way out meets a bunch of foreigners exploiting their American citizenship. You're suggesting that this woman's husband punish her and scare her, by sending her back to a bad situation - which pretty much paints all the western males in these relationships as lowdown, abusive a**holes. Yeah, that ought to teach her. She's got a lot of nerve thinking she's part of his family, or that she's loved and valued, or that she has the right to have a problem with her husband

You not only have no problem making bad general statements about every woman in China and Indonesia. You have no problem with a man from the west holding the power of his American citizenship and better financial circumstances over his own wife's head, like, if you don't act the way I like, I'll just send you back. As if she were a dog he got out of the pound - except most people would have too much heart to send the dog back.

Would anyone do that to someone they loved?

Why are you even posting to a group about Asian-American *romance* when you don't believe there's any such thing?

This is just depressing.

--- In asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com, "Rose" <pinkiee.roses@...> wrote:
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> Hi Sharon
> We meet again ;)
>
> I understand very well your point of view here and also understand why you think that way :) I can say I am not agree also with indonesian bride, coz they all do the same thing like you said and some cases even worst.
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> Probably what you said to send her back home is a good idea, but can be bad idea also :) Best is like what Fred said, Jerry (oooppsss I think I called a wrong name in my other email) must know what she has in her mind. No point in guessing what she wants and act base on what we thought she is thinking. If she said she is home sick, only then send her back home for holiday :)
>
> Good luck to Jerry
>
> Cheers
> ~Rose~
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>
>
> ~Watch your habits, for they become your character. Develop your character, for it becomes your destiny~
> Sent with lots of best wishes and powered by Faith
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: "Sharon" <lin.sharon123@...>
> Sender: asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com
> Date: Wed, 23 Jun 2010 07:05:49
> To: <asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com>
> Reply-To: asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com
> Subject: [asianamericanromance] Re: New Guy
>
> Hi Jerry n Rose,
>
>
> I am sort of against china bride ... :p
> I used to work in our national immigrantion agency and assist interviewing china bride... None I would say they got cool personality deeply in their soul.. :p Sorry if I jumped to a conclusion too subjective.
>
> Their gap between poor and rich are pretty worse, female were not regarded any important, so they were unlucky to grow in a fair environment. They would seize any straw reach to them.... I personally don't think they would really want to go back to China. I might be very wrong but I personally think that's because she is in US now that she wants more. Send her back to China alone for a month, she will definately love you more than before.
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> Again... I am sort of against china bride ... :p Probably it's because they are more competitive than me. lol
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> I am also curious about your case.
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>
>
> cheers,
> Sharon
> --- In asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com, "Rose" <pinkiee.roses@> wrote:
> >
> > Hi Jerry
> >
> > Welcome.
> >
> > Sorry to hear your problem. I guess that is what we called marriage life ;) May I know what is your wife age ?
> >
> > Yes it could be cultural difference shock. She is now trying to adapt to her present situation and she did miss her family a lot. All her life, she was living with her family and now she feels lonely without them.
> >
> > Sleeping on the couch for 2 days .... Wow. Wanna share the problem ? Maybe we can help you here ? :)
> >
> > Sent on date 6/23/2010 time 07:22
> >
> >
> > ~Watch your habits, for they become your character. Develop your character, for it becomes your destiny~
> > Sent with lots of best wishes and powered by Faith
> >
> > -----Original Message-----
> > From: "Captain Jerry" <CaptainJerry@>
> > Sender: asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com
> > Date: Tue, 22 Jun 2010 22:22:28
> > To: <asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com>
> > Reply-To: asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com
> > Subject: [asianamericanromance] New Guy
> >
> > Hi,
> > I'm new here. My name is Jerry [I've been called "Captain Jerry" for a
> > very long time!] I live in Southern California [The O.C. Baby!] and I
> > work for KIA Motors America as a Senior Software Engineer [which just
> > means that I'm a programmer that's been around the block a few...
> > hundred times!] -- About 2 years ago I was in the middle of a very
> > devastating divorce, when I met this wonderful girl [online] from China.
> > We clicked BIG TIME, and embarked on getting her to the U.S. to be my
> > wife. I went to visit her once, and it took us 9 more months to get her
> > here. We were married 10 days after she stepped off the plane. Our
> > relationship has been up and down since... Usually good, sometimes
> > great, sometimes just okay, but when we're having problems, they are
> > really bad. She almost immediately jumps to wanting to go back to
> > China, permanently. Yes, she misses her family, but she is constantly
> > online with them, and doesn't seem to be bothered that she can't
> > actually be with them in person. I think our problems are more in the
> > area of cultural differences, but I'll get to that in a new post!
> > [She's been sleeping on the couch for the past 2 nights :-(
> > Jerry
> >
>