[asianamericanromance] Being Human

What people forget is for most of human history it has been the woman's job to take care of the family. It was the man's job to provide for the family. Thus I see nothing wrong when a woman requests a husband with resources to support a family. The question is simply how much is a reasonable amount?

Supporting family has many levels of comfort and varies with where you live.
I personally think $25,000 income per person in the family will support them quite well, anything more is luxuries. But that amount does need to adjust for location, what is fine in the Midwest is not enough on the coasts due to housing costs.

And for a basis, a $100,000 house in the Midwest is a quite nice new 3 bedroom. They get nicer from there. And older homes can be bought for less. In a smaller city that price is much lower than in one of the larger Midwest cities. Jump to the coasts and as someone mentioned $500,000 won't get you much. It is silly but that is the cost of so many people in a small space, land price shoots up far more than it needs too.

So a Million is a lot in the Midwest and not so much on the coasts. It may not even purchase that simple 3 bedroom home, though it should.

So is $2 million a lot to ask? Maybe not if she expected to live in California in nice neighborhoods. Japan can be just as bad or worse but for quite a large part of the world $2 million is a lot.

But do not assume those assets mean you are set for life. My Family lost far more than that due to 911 and now has many problems. We still have not recovered from that. My parents went from having Millions to living on social security, we hope their renaming asset can be sold for enough to improve on that but it has been years with no sale. My brother lost $3 million and now is struggling finding enough work, he lost his home as well to poor bankers. And I am no better off, though I did not loose my home. Hopefully the economy will improve.

So Sharon had every right to request such an asset but equally it shocked the men on here simply because it was so blunt. Men do not like to look at their own assets as a bargaining chip. Only those who inherit it or have been quite lucky in life tend to have enough to brag about and asking for Millions tends to need those people.  I would recommend asking for a decent stable income as well since that asset may not last long.


On another topic, Beauty
It is built into men to desire beauty, though that standard may be different for each man
It is built into men to desire younger women
But man is more than his desires and his mind can overcome the animal nature, but he will still desire it
So what he wants is not what he will get and be happy to have
Often what is desired will not make you happy
You are far better off if you can find a woman who will love you for who you are and that you can love for who she is, as then you are more likely to be happy.

And for me the mark of beauty in Asian women is the Face followed by slender builds.
Culture follows, as Asian women are more often raised with decent morals and better family values.
I add that because American women are no longer like that due to the moral crisis in this country.
I am not even sure I would want to raise any daughters here where it is considered normal for them to have sex before high school!!!
Sure you can try to teach them better but when all their friends are doing such things, peer pressure is hard to fight.

Well, that is enough of a post

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