Asian American Romance: [asianamericanromance] Re: Being Human

Hi all,

I clicked too quick therefore it was sent in blank. I clicked too quick because when I was reading the email, my brain already writing the reply to it, as soon as I finished reading, I thought I have also done the writing job. lol

Sorry if you wonder why.

cheers,
Sharon

--- In asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com, "Sharon" <lin.sharon123@...> wrote:
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> --- In asianamericanromance@yahoogroups.com, Furvert <furvert@> wrote:
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> > What people forget is for most of human history it has been the woman's
> > job to take care of the family. It was the man's job to provide for the
> > family. Thus I see nothing wrong when a woman requests a husband with
> > resources to support a family. The question is simply how much is a
> > reasonable amount?
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> > Supporting family has many levels of comfort and varies with where you live.
> > I personally think $25,000 income per person in the family will support
> > them quite well, anything more is luxuries. But that amount does need to
> > adjust for location, what is fine in the Midwest is not enough on the
> > coasts due to housing costs.
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> > And for a basis, a $100,000 house in the Midwest is a quite nice new 3
> > bedroom. They get nicer from there. And older homes can be bought for
> > less. In a smaller city that price is much lower than in one of the
> > larger Midwest cities. Jump to the coasts and as someone mentioned
> > $500,000 won't get you much. It is silly but that is the cost of so many
> > people in a small space, land price shoots up far more than it needs too.
> >
> > So a Million is a lot in the Midwest and not so much on the coasts. It
> > may not even purchase that simple 3 bedroom home, though it should.
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> > So is $2 million a lot to ask? Maybe not if she expected to live in
> > California in nice neighborhoods. Japan can be just as bad or worse but
> > for quite a large part of the world $2 million is a lot.
> >
> > But do not assume those assets mean you are set for life. My Family lost
> > far more than that due to 911 and now has many problems. We still have
> > not recovered from that. My parents went from having Millions to living
> > on social security, we hope their renaming asset can be sold for enough
> > to improve on that but it has been years with no sale. My brother lost
> > $3 million and now is struggling finding enough work, he lost his home
> > as well to poor bankers. And I am no better off, though I did not loose
> > my home. Hopefully the economy will improve.
> >
> > So Sharon had every right to request such an asset but equally it
> > shocked the men on here simply because it was so blunt. Men do not like
> > to look at their own assets as a bargaining chip. Only those who inherit
> > it or have been quite lucky in life tend to have enough to brag about
> > and asking for Millions tends to need those people. I would recommend
> > asking for a decent stable income as well since that asset may not last
> > long.
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> > On another topic, Beauty
> > It is built into men to desire beauty, though that standard may be
> > different for each man
> > It is built into men to desire younger women
> > But man is more than his desires and his mind can overcome the animal
> > nature, but he will still desire it
> > So what he wants is not what he will get and be happy to have
> > Often what is desired will not make you happy
> > You are far better off if you can find a woman who will love you for who
> > you are and that you can love for who she is, as then you are more
> > likely to be happy.
> >
> > And for me the mark of beauty in Asian women is the Face followed by
> > slender builds.
> > Culture follows, as Asian women are more often raised with decent morals
> > and better family values.
> > I add that because American women are no longer like that due to the
> > moral crisis in this country.
> > I am not even sure I would want to raise any daughters here where it is
> > considered normal for them to have sex before high school!!!
> > Sure you can try to teach them better but when all their friends are
> > doing such things, peer pressure is hard to fight.
> >
> > Well, that is enough of a post
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